Ouch, sorry to hear it. For what it's worth, I know you can and will come out the other side. My separation and divorce came right around when I was laid off after 19 years. That was around 10 years ago. I'll offer just one piece of advice: always take the high road when it comes to your ex (even if she makes it difficult). Don't fall into the trap of saying negative things about her to or around your kids.