At the urging of a former band mate, I searched Craigslist for a band looking for a singer. Followed a link to BandMix and found the perfect match in a town about 55 miles from me. Went this past Sunday to jam with them and it was a great success. So for the first time since the early 90's I will be gigging again. The drummer has a nice rehearsal space, plenty of PA gear as well as a nice assortment of guitars and amps. (He's a pretty good guitar player as well.) The issue is the drummer's girlfriend. It's obvious she wants to be part of the band and is very intrusive with "advice" and even took to adjusting the PA, which is verboten in my opinion. The drummer and the keyboard player have been together about a year. The bass player has jammed with them one time, and this was the first time for me and the guitar player. The bass player finally had to tell this girl "You're making me nervous." She would get right up in the middle of the band with a music stand and lyric sheets, and sing along, but with no mic. We all tried to ignore her as much as possible, but I think we need to nip this in the bud. This is a deal breaker for me. I'm 51 years old and I'm past the fooling around stage and am ready to make some money. In my opinion rehearsal is work, it's not a gig. We are not there to entertain or indulge onlookers. It's good to have input form outside the band but she's way over the line. Let me give you an example: I typically wear jeans, boots and pearl snap shirts, and we play mostly classic and southern rock. During the course of her dishing out advice, she said that I should grow my hair out a little longer. I deadpanned back "What do you think I should wear?" The sarcasm went completely over her head and she said, "You shouldn't dress so country if you're playing rock and roll." How bout that?