My father-in-law is a lot like like my late father. They were both tech guys who learned on the job. My dad was an instrument technician in breeder reactors and my wife's dad installed clean rooms in hospitals and research facilities around the world. Neither went to college but were good with their hands and 3-d thinking with equations. My wife's parents have suffered a series of health setbacks that have placed them in an assisted care facility set up like an apartment. They hate it. They loved their house. They don't know their new neighbors well and think that they are not liked. The place has a woodshop, which holds great appeal for her dad, but he says that guys there didn't seem to want him in there. Well, finally he did get in to use it, but he suffered a terrible accident right away. He was working with a table saw, something he has done for 50-60 years, when something happened and it bit his left hand. He lost three fingers between the thumb and pinky. Apparently there was enough damage to prevent re-attachment of the fingers. He's 80 and has always been the fix it guy around the house, and now he has lost his kingdom and now his pride. The fingers are not going to be the problem. His pride has taken such a terrible hit today. He already hated the place and now this. The facility itself is regarded as the best in Albuquerque. His wife is slipping day by day into dementia and he is burdened with bathing her and keeping her on the right meds. His love for her is a wonder to see, yet he himself is getting more depressed and feeling his powers diminish. This event is going to have a huge impact on him. My wife, who is out of town on business, says that she or I would just kind of buck up and say, well, too bad, need to make some adjustments. But he is in a much more precarious frame of mind and is going to be devastated. Any ideas for making him feel better? He's one of those Indiana farm boy, WWII, build a life from scratch kind of guys.