Expect the worst and what you end up with will always be better...

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  1. Blazer

    Blazer Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    The last time I was involved with a woman didn't end well, not at all.

    Problem is that we were booked to play the same gig but with different musical outfits and today was our final check and I ran into her. And all of the time I was going "Please no, don't let her bring up anything." but to my great relief we just exchanged "Hey, been a while, how are you?" small talks.

    I hope it stays that way.
     
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    I'm shure the problem was more than being double booked, without mentioning it(?)

    But I never set my expectations to high, and am never disappointed.
    It is not pessimizm.
    In fact everything above my expectation seems like blessings this way.
     
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    Coach56 One of the Boys

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    Dad used to say " Expect the worst, hope for the best, and settle for anything in between"

    Always liked that a lot
     
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    Like the optimistic pessimist, I never worry. Because I know everything will turn out just crap.
     
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    Well, my Dad always says,"Cheer up ~ things could be worse. ...So, he cheered up, and sure enough, things got worse."
     
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    I always tell my composition students that it is a small field, and many people know each other, sometimes over decades. Be as reasonable and human as possible when dealing with relationship endings or even just conflicts with anybody. I was a little weird (I hope just a little) with someone in school to whom I later offered a job, and, later on, informed that she didn't get the next job. She never brought up the past and we are good colleagues in the field today. I hope she saw that I had grown up since school. I cringe at the memory, still.
     
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  7. src9000

    src9000 Poster Extraordinaire

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    Sometimes, when you expect the worst, you make it worse.
     
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    Expect the worst and what you end up with will always be better...

    I think it took me half of my life to figure this one out, especially with regard to women. I like surprises, but not the negative ones.
     
  9. Obsessed

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    I have high hopes and low expectations and usually everything comes out somewhere in between.
     
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    Not always...................................................................

    My younger Sister had a boyfriend once, that if you look up the definition of CREEPY in the dictionary, you will find his picture.
    He got WORSE, when he started to beat her like a DOG.
    She moved out-of-state, and he ended up drinking himself to death, at a relatively young age.

    Steve
     
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    I lived with an ex for a few years after breaking up, and we both brought new victims home. Had Christmas dinner with an ex and a current GF, eventually another ex became friends with the live in ex, and I later found myself hanging out with two exes and my current GF who became my wife.
    Then the middle ex wrote me into her memoir, which was on the NYT bestseller list for a while. All lies, but the laundry was aired. This was an ex I could only take just so much of.
    We only invited the non writer ex to the wedding. She did some very nice photography for free.

    Exes are people you just have to live with, even when you live without them.
     
  12. Stingfan73

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    I've never agreed with "expect the worst, and what you end up with will always be better". If you TRULY live like this, you've forfeited fair expectations of yourself and for others to have of you, and of expectations of other people.

    I've seen the "no expectations" thing play out. A lot of times, those people end up with ****ty, unreliable friends and relationships that don't respect of give a damn about you. These are unrewarding relationships that I have no interest in.

    No thank you. I've never lived in that world, but seen enough of it. But good luck if that works for you.

    I hold people in my life to certain standards, and also to "not practice what I preach", I expect people to hold me to standards, and call me on it, if I depart from them.

    But whatever works for you...
     
  13. Ironwolf

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    Just remember, "It's always darkest.......just before things go utterly black."
     
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    Wow, with all of that, I think you are lucky to be alive.
     
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    Blessed is he who expecteth nothing, for he shall not be disappointed.
     
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    I pride myself on being a glass half full kind of guy, and am teaching my son the same - of course women are a whole nuther category

    This is the best tho....

    [​IMG]
     
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    pessimists live shorter lives.... or something like that, maybe just feels shorter
     
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    Pretty sure she feels the same way about it. She was possibly praying you wouldn't bring it up in front of everybody as well!

    Time to put that one away and keep moving forward.
     
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    Just my Luck!!!
     
  20. Toto'sDad

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    It's odd how people keep on, keeping on with expectations. I had a friend come to me one time wearing a long face and say to me. You know TD the other day I spoke poorly of you, and I'd like to ask your forgiveness. I replied quickly, oh no worries here, go ahead and say whatever you want about me, cause that way I can say whatever I want about you, and not have to worry about it! He actually got miffed that I would even think about talking about him! I had to think about that for a while, and decided people are just plain crazy.
     
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