Emotion is the enemy

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  1. imwjl

    imwjl Poster Extraordinaire

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    Training can help. I'm a few months into my "essential worker" situation I didn't ask for but I braced myself and I review my "mind at work" crib sheet. Sometimes it's take a breath. Sometimes is is actually looking at the page.

    You'd think it would be getting easier but it's not. The risk is real. People are missing from work long-term. Everyone knows someone who's been really sick and in some cases died. Some of the public is getting crazier and we still have to go to work.

    Moderating emotions are a good thought but you can right things down, review your data and even in a long-term bummer act better than letting it go. However, some people are impossible.

    I also realized needing to control even if you can't fully do it a few other times in life. Once I took a summer job in a place where war broke out. Once I was on a place with landing gear problems. The mind can't fully do the job but you can manage some important tasks okay.
     
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    Not familiar with the show mentioned in the OP, but most responses here tend toward controlling violent emotions. Here's another category of emotions that can definitely cause harm to us and those close to us:

    Lust.

    Physical attraction is one of those elemental forces - like gravity, or weather. It happens, and very often takes one by surprise. So there you are, let's say you're a married guy with a happy family, faced with a temptation that comes from your very most basic, survival of the species, instinctual level. Your emotions have some pretty strong suggestions as to how to proceed, but about 99.9% of the time, your emotions are wrong, given the potential pain and devastation to your spouse and family.

    No matter who you are, or how committed you are to your relationship, you will very likely be faced with such a situation at some point in your life. Learning how to handle yourself in the circumstance requires clarity, strength, and self-control. Your emotions will not be providing these qualities in the moment.
     
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    Thanks, That was great! I especially loved the conversation between the lead guitar and Lindley. I somehow missed this record growing up.
     
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  4. Mike Eskimo

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    And in business /gear acquisition/ gear retention .

    Emotion has no place anywhere near money.
     
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    This is very nicely said.
     
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    We *are* our emotions. The enemy?

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  7. getbent

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    like all threads, it is a mirror.
     
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  8. getbent

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    two axioms that I find myself thinking about are:

    the very thing that makes you rich, makes you poor.

    Your greatest strength is also your greatest weakness.
     
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    "For now we see through a glass darkly" 1 Corinthians 13:12
     
  10. getbent

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    yes.

    it is the royal we.. it is just you.

    we are born alone
    we live alone
    we die alone


    (the comforting words a priest shared with me once when discussing a devastating loss I'd suffered in which he informed he had lost his faith, but that he'd do his best.)

    In my crazy 27 year old mind, I determined to comfort him and help him with his faith issues... which somehow might make me a high functioning psychopath!
     
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    I believe the brain is designed, in many respects, to keep us out of trouble, and part of that, is dwelling on the negative. If we always worry about what might happen, then we can guard against negative situations. Just part of evolution.
     
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  12. ping-ping-clicka

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    ah phooey,:mad: I hate it when folks talk all about the things I hate, just ah bunch of stuff:mad: and I really hate stuff, just thinking about stuff makes my temperature rise,:mad: it make my blood boil,:mad: that stuff stuff is just to much to tolerate. I can't stand that stuff!:mad:.................:D:lol::twisted::rolleyes: you mean like that?:p


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    w/o emotions there is no humanity. deal with 'em. learn how they handle you and vice versa, but BUT ain't no humanity without emotion.
     
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    Actually, feelings are tied to memory. What you experience as a "feeling" helps you remember some event. This is why emotional situations (like a car crash) are often very well remembered. This is also why people say that time slows down when something really bad is happening, it is because the brain is trying to capture every second of the event and emotions help to strengthen the memories. It is actually quite well understood from a scientific point of view.
     
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    WRT gear acquisition, i have two opposing emotions that are at war with one another.

    I feel the desire for some magic bullet to make me feel better if not be a better music maker.
    But I also feel a certain sickness in knowing it's sick to hope to make myself feel better buying gear, and also know that my gear is fine and what I need more of is space and money.

    I think the key is to step back from the experience of the emotion and observe ourselves experiencing the emotion.
    We are not our emotions, they are there but we needn't follow them blindly.
     
  16. Mike Eskimo

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    Emotional attachment to “stuff”.

    I conquered about 90% of it.

    “Stuff” comes in, “stuff” goes out. Later - more “stuff” will come in...

    But, I have many other weaknesses, especially where emotions are concerned.
     
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    See : latest Seinfeld special about halfway thru where he references “it is what it is...” (and many others...) o_O
     
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    I'm surprised that misters James and Lange haven't weighed in yet.
     
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    Sounds like you've read Stephen Covey's book.
     
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    If so, he hasn't finished it yet if he only has one habit...
     
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