Don’t give a hug …

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  1. P-Nutz

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    … when a handshake’ll do.

    Discuss.
     
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    I'm not even big into handshakes these days.
     
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    A hug is the ultimate salutation. A handshake is below a hug. Daps are below handshakes
     
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    I hug when hugs are appropriate. I handshake when handshakes are appropriate. I nod when neither are appropriate.
     
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    there's not as much body fluid on someone else's clothes.....:lol:
     
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    The one thing I like about the way the world is right now is the lack of handshakes. I’ve never understood it. Look someone in the eyes and nod. I like that better.
     
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    A hug is nice between people who genuinely like each other. I’ve never initiated one in the workplace but liked it the few times female work friends leaned in. Me too has made us paranoid and the pandemic has made us wary. And elbow bumps are awkward. This is one more reason I’m glad I’m retired.
     
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    a safe elbow bump and a smile?....

    nothing worse than giving someone a hug and they don't hug back.... like a limp wristed handshake....:lol:

    those power handshake guys who they think they are getting something over you with their dominant grip... are total wankers really....:rolleyes:
     
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    I'm (was) a handshaker- never gave it much thought, it was just automatic, they way I learned...

    Now, barely a fist bump, but the handshake still makes an appearance, out of habit

    * now I will ask
     
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    go with your gut... maybe not what you need, but what the other person either needs or wants.
     
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    We'd all better be careful about pretending that deep bonds can be formed without human contact.
     
  12. Killing Floor

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    I don’t hug people I work with. Mostly.
     
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    Elbow bumps are stupid. Remember how we all thought Howie Mandel was weird years ago for doing that? Now it's normal?
    Just smile and wave from across the street, please.
    Be afraid. Be very afraid.
     
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    The deep, namaste bow can disarm an unwanted hugger.
    As an old white guy, I'm cautious about daps/fist-bumps as I may be doing something ridiculous.

    The folks I wanna hug also wanna be hugged.
    ;)
     
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    +1 until a recent event has forced the appropriate, but awkward elbow bump.
     
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    Hi.

    Well, I have bowing down pretty well now. :)

    And, that’s my point, I guess. It’s cultural. Not intercultural or whatever, it’s vari-cultural. Or something.

    What I mean is, it’s appropriate or not, learned behaviour or not, etc. within areas of culture. So, between cultures or within subcultures, etc. and a temporal thing - in and out of fashion too.

    Where I’m from, my father’s generation shook hands automatically. My generation didn’t. Some subsequent generations do seem to however. And, that’s just where I’m originally from.

    So for me, handshakes are totally alien. When someone sticks their hand out to me, it throws me and I stand there for a long moment until my brain engages. It’s that alien.

    And I agree with @trev333 , those power grip dorks are total and utter Qs let’s.* They’re not impressing, asserting, dominating, etc. anyone or whatever. I mock them with my most scornful and mockingful mocks (internally).

    Oh, and as a born and raised New Zealander, I’m totally fluent with down, up and eyebrow led nods. That’s how I do it, daily.

    https://www.stuff.co.nz/travel/news...raise-how-to-understand-new-zealand-head-nods

    Pax/
    Dean
    * phone didn’t seem to want me to write wankers :)
     
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    proper way to say hello.
     
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    Getting hugged by women is good, getting hugged by men is bad. IMHO
     
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    This is what I go with. I'm generally good at reading the room. There are situations where someone's body language practically screams for a hug. Other times, not so much. A lot of people are uncomfortable with hugging, and I totally get that.
     
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