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Do you give people a second chance?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by kevoz, Sep 1, 2013.

  1. Telemarkman

    Telemarkman Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    Second chance? Hell, no! Since I'm flawless myself, I feel I have the right to expect the same from everyone else.:D
     
  2. piece of ash

    piece of ash Friend of Leo's

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    There are selfish things, and there are evil things. For me, one true act of evil and I'm gone.
     
  3. OlRedNeckHippy

    OlRedNeckHippy Friend of Leo's

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    Yes, I do.

    3rd chance, NO. By By.
     
  4. PhatBoy

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    I try to. Lord knows I've needed several along the way.
     
  5. Bartholomew3

    Bartholomew3 Friend of Leo's

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    Some people need a third, fourth and fifth chance. They call them "losers" in my area. I lent a buddy $1,200 interest-free. It cost me close to $2,400 before tax - so I worked almost a full week @ zero as it wasn't paid back.

    Don't lend $$$. Give them $500 and be done with it. When people are on the way down after jumping off a bridge I wave good-bye, because they'll be coming back up with their hand out for $$$ if they survive.
     
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  6. telequacktastic

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    It depends how useful they are I suppose. Singers get one shot, guitars/bass/drums/steel and fiddle get 2. LOL
     
  7. Revv23

    Revv23 Friend of Leo's

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    Hmm I don't usually give first chances.
    Lol.

    If its something like money I only loan what I expect I can afford losing.

    I've seen enough to generally expect the worst in people and hope for the best.
     
  8. 6942

    6942 Poster Extraordinaire

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    For something minor.....YES.

    For something major.....NO.
     
  9. Wailin' Tele

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    'He who hath no sin, cast the first stone.'
    To be human is to be fallible by nature. Im more inclined to forgive and learn about my own inadequacies in the process.
     
  10. dented

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    Professionally and out in the real world: Yes

    Personally and involving my life specifically: No

    Pretty much has gone that way for me.
     
  11. richinva

    richinva Tele-Meister

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    Depends on what it is.
     
  12. Blazer

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    I gave the first bass player and the leadsinger of my old band plenty of second chances but they betrayed my trust and if it means that I never have to see them again, FINE, good riddance.

    I'm not a vengeful person but I do bear grudges but in my case that means that I break off completely, remove that person out of my life.
     
  13. studio

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    People who are maliciously doing slick and clever
    moves to get by on others will always have a greater
    chance at letting people down. The other folks who just
    might have a hard time in life are worth giving second chances to.

    You have to be discerning enough to tell the difference.
     
  14. brianswindall

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    Usually, when someone screws you over, they will do it again if given the chance. Best to be guarded when it comes to it happening again. I forgive but do not forget. I try not to put myself in the position of being vulnerable to those who have done me wrong.
     
  15. Mike Eskimo

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    I have 7 (seven) sisters and 1 brother.

    Get along w/ all of them real well - except for 1 sister.

    Her hobby/only interest is acquiring things (her own deal - I don't care) and then one time she told me on the phone and in person how worthless, lazy, and ineffective ALL the people are in my wife's profession and that my wife lays around all summer and does nothing.

    I avoided her completely for a year or so. 2 Christmases ago - we avoided each other - no problem.

    This last Christmas she (quite drunkenly) cornered me at another sister's house.

    I told her "This isn't your house, and it isn't my house and it's a holiday."

    I went around her and walked away and as I did she kicked me full force in the lower back/tailbone. BTW = she's 58. Real class act.

    I work (work) for a living and I was in pain for a month.

    Second chance ? She doesn't exist.
     
  16. Gibson

    Gibson Friend of Leo's

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    Everyone deserves a second chance, IMO. And assuming they want one.

    Third chances are a matter for debate and at the discretion of the bestower; context is everything.
     
  17. Toto'sDad

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    Depends, not accusing them of wearing depends, I mean it depends.
     
  18. Westerly Sunn

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    That's a good way to put it... and pretty much the line between second chances or not with me.
     
  19. kevoz

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    I suppose the gutsy thing to do before cutting somebody off is to front them and put forward your grievance and give them a chance to put up their side of the story, and tell them how you feel about (your perception of ) what happened (or didn't happen, whatever the case). Sometimes we can read things the wrong way. I've never done this but I would like to have the courage to (but probably never will). I have a terrible habit of just shaking my head and walking away rather than fronting somebody (friend or no friend). It would certainly be a useful strategy in assertion in the workplace - to address grievances in a mature and proper manner rather than whinging behind somebody's back.
     
  20. studio

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    Are we sometimes afraid of NOT giving second chances or
    multiple chances for fear of being without friends?

    What? That's just me?

    Nevermind.
     
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