Dating site recommendations

Toto'sDad

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If they have any "senior centers" in your area at least give them a look. My wife sent me off to two of those things when I first retired, I wasn't there but a short while when one of the ladies told me that she wasn't going to beat around the bush about it, she wanted to take me home with her. I made my escape, and never went back.
 

Knows3Chords

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I've been out of the dating racket for so long I have no idea. One thing might work. Get a fake wedding ring. I don't know how it is now, but back in the day I had way more girls chatting me up after I got married. Many of my friends said this happened to them too. I don't know, it's a crazy idea, but sometimes you've got to think outside the box. :)
 

teletimetx

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Yes - go to classes - yoga, cooking classes, art/pottery/music classes. Community self-improvement stuff and the kind of classes that might just attract women. Don’t just go to window shop, you might just learn something.

Yes, volunteer. Food Bank, nature conservancy, public radio station, etc, etc. What are you interested in? Your volunteering will reflect that.

Yes - go to live music venues. No one will make you drink alcohol - and what would be wrong with meeting a woman who also enjoys live music?

I can’t recall anyone in your position saying that women just lined up at the front door, so yes, you will have to go out into the world and find your next adventure.

Good luck with whatever you decide.
 

Matt Sarad

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My buddy Mike has used online dating platforms, mostly Match.com.
He has met angry screamers, hoarders, a sex addict, plus size sex bombs looking for husbands, and his current match is a psychotherapist who owns a home in West LA, drives a Land Rover, rides a road bike, practices yoga, and keeps a safe distance.
 

saltyseadog

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The best way to meet women at your age is to start doing volountary work at charity shops etc, etc. Most of these places are run by women in the age group you mention and if they like you they will go into the ancient art of feminine matchmaking.
 

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I hope you find the right one for you. I have never done any online dating, but I will say that my Wife is the one in a million that I never thought I’d find. I found her playing guitar, of all things. I never thought I would get married until I met her.

While I abhor pickup artists and the cruel games that are played by both men and women in an increasingly transactional world, I believe it may be beneficial for you to at least acquaint yourself with what these games are and how people play them, so that you are not taken to the cleaners, figuratively speaking.

One interesting (and perhaps unintended) consequence of the pickup artists’ study of these struggles for power in matters of mating and social hierarchies was an unveiling, if you will, of the dirty tactics of both sides.

Read Rolo Tomassi’s Rational Male for an insightful breakdown of how the currency of biology is leveraged for power in the current battleground of exchange.

Some people cannot swallow the bitter pill, so to speak.

I would encourage you to arm yourself with some hard truths to protect yourself from the more wicked game players first, but to then do a thorough, soul searching self-inventory. I believe that only when we have let go of our temporal desires and resolved to go out into the world with a renewed vigor to help others do we have the opportunity to cross paths with others who are on the same wavelength.

Just go out and help people with your own unique gifts, expecting nothing in return, and you may find who you were really meant to find. Don’t get distracted along the way and waste your valuable time and energy. That is why it is good to know that there is a very subtle game being played with weapons and tactics thousands of years in the refining.

Don’t be like the players, but learn to spot them and how they play. I would also strongly urge you to have faith. Find the good people. If they weren’t where you looked before, it’s either because you were in the wrong place, or your heart might not have been right or ready.

Good luck to you. There are good people out there. Go out and give, and if nothing else, you will know you are doing what is right. No one knows when their ship will come in until it does. Believe that it will.
 

Twofingerlou

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Ok I’ll bite…. Here ya go. As a guy in my mid 30’s we have a bit of a age gap. That said I dabbled into the online dating thing a handful of years back.

I met three different women and went on dates with them after countless un successful messages and sending pics of licking my eyebrows ect.

1. We swapped pics and talked on the phone and had solid conversations a handful of times before we met. We set up a day, time and place. I got there early and got a table and sat waiting for her. Told the hostess what what up and where to direct said gal when she showed up. This gal walks up to my table and says are you so and so? Yes I am…. She looked nothing like the pictures she sent!! The pics were a solid 7 or 8 and shrek showed up.

Not sure of her tactic like I wouldn’t figure this out but I was already committed at a table and didn’t know what to do, this was my first rodeo! Being a nice guy I gave her the benefit of the doubt. The next hour couldn’t of came fast enough though. It was nothing but awkward after feeling duped. The conversation didn’t flow like on the phone. I eventually told the waiter to bring the bill so I could bail. I had some left overs and this chic asked if she could have them! 😳

I paid the bill and told her nice meeting her but I had to go help a friend. It hadn’t been a hour later and she was texting me how much she missed me.

2. After a couple weeks of texting and calls we I lined out a date, she said she had a busy schedule. This time I waited outside for her to show up in case I had a deal like last time and needed to bail sooner. She was advertised as described but somebody dropped her off, eh ok. We get a table and sit down and she orders a margarita, we were at a good Mexican joint no prob.

Conversation was flowing good but this chic is smashing margaritas like a drunken sailer. I brought up and ask why she got dropped off, after a few taking the edge off she tells me she’s had a few DUI’s and rolled a couple cars down the local main interstate. Awww that explains some of this now. I dipped out shortly but later that night she started texting me again wanting to meet me again and started sending the more so graphic pictures if you catch my drift. This went nowhere.

3. As if I hadn’t learned my lesson I went for round three. This gal said she was a nurse, a red head and a cute gal. She was also as advertised. We met the first time and hit it off, nothing awkward, weird or out of place. That first dinner lasted a couple hours and ended up going for a walk grabbing ice cream and ended with a nice hug. It felt right and we scheduled date number two the next day.

Long story short we went out probably 5-6 times in a bit over a month. As you might suspect things kept progressing after each date but one thing I started to realize after date 4 is this gal never paid a dime or at least offered. I was really digging this gal but I finally brought up how I felt and asked the question where this was going? She flipped her tune and did a 180 on me, I think she was just after the free meal tickets and once I started to catch on she was foiled.


Soooooo after all that I’m retired from the online dating BS. Tread lightly with caution but maybe the older crowd is different?
 

Marc Morfei

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I'd chillax and be patient. For all you know you could find the love of your life in a grocery store.
I think this is the best advice on this thread. Be open and alert all the time for the possibility of meeting someone. Strike up conversations with strangers. Get out in the world. You never know….
 

naveed211

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I’ve had really good luck (comparatively) with Hinge.

I tried pretty much every dating app under the sun and got literally zero dates from them.

I dated a few women I met on Hinge and chatted with a few others. Got matches pretty often which didn’t happen nearly as much on other apps. Seems for the time being typically women are more serious about actually dating on there. (With a caveat, I’ve been randomly ghosted after a couple weeks of dating by three different women, so there’s that).

I have a girlfriend now that I met on Hinge.

I’m 38, for whatever that’s worth. No idea how it is for guys much older than me.
 

Downeast

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No joke: I met my girlfriend at a funeral.

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