Dating at 70?

[Skydog1010]

Good luck.

Personally I'm staying a widower, no one can measure up to my late wife. When you've been married to the best, why mess with the rest.

 

[Spazzmaster]

Good luck.

Personally I'm staying a widower, no one can measure up to my late wife. When you've been married to the best, why mess with the rest.

Me too. I don't think guys like us have much to contribute to this thread. Besides wishing the OP the best of luck.

 

[brookdalebill]

Good luck.

Personally I'm staying a widower, no one can measure up to my late wife. When you've been married to the best, why mess with the rest.

Me too. I don't think guys like us have much to contribute to this thread. Besides wishing the OP the best of luck.

Me too, my second wife, Cindy, the love of my life, died of lung cancer 3 years into our relationship, 11 months into our marriage.
She had just turned 44.
I remarried, disastrously, once more, and had a few, uh, other skirmishes.
I am always glad to see it work out for others, though.
I know of many strong, happy, supporting marriages.
It can happen.

 

[gridlock]

Been there and done that, though younger. I to want companionship. I’ve been lucky and had most good experiences.

Good luck with your search.

 

[P Thought]

If (perish the thought) Mrs. Thought were ever to leave me single again, I'd be like the dog that chases cars. I'd probably go chasing women, but I don't know what I'd do if I caught one.

Just enjoy the chase.

 

[Skydog1010]

Me too, my second wife, Cindy, the love of my life, died of lung cancer 3 years into our relationship, 11 months into our marriage.
She had just turned 44.
I remarried, disastrously, once more, and had a few, uh, other skirmishes.
I am always glad to see it work out for others, though.
I know of many strong, happy, supporting marriages.
It can happen.

Sorry for your loss. That sting really never goes completely away.

Enjoy your life as best you can.

 

[wrathfuldeity]

There's dating, owners and relationships. Dating is like grabbing a git and pulling it off the showroom wall and playing around for a bit. Owners are figuring out if she hangs on the wall or in the case. And a relationship is your muse that is witty, charming and teases you. It takes awhile to find the keeper...

 

[pbenn]

Perhaps OP is going about it wrong.

Try enrolling in a oilates or yoga class for seniors.

They'll be all over you....

 

[Knows3Chords]

When my Mom died in 2008 my father was 80 years old. All my Mom's single friends from church were all over him. They were showing up at the house with food and everything. A few of them were widows with a ton of money and no kids. We used to joke with him about marrying some money. My Dad was old school. He politely declined every one. He and my Mom were married over 50 years.

As for the OP, check with local senior centers. They have lots of events. Who knows, you might score a sugar mama.

 

[dented]

I'm also looking at a lifestyle that includes a female companion. I have gone to a church function, look around the grocery store and so on. I don't go to bars anymore but I probably should search out some live music. I am surprised how many women smoke in Georgia. In California it was almost non-existent. I met one woman and she let me know right away she was ready to get married and hitch up. Uh, not so fast. Seems she had many issues that got in the way. It's not easy, good luck. I don't see any reason to get married either. Not at my age. And anyone I meet should have their retirement in order and not have to rely on me for saving their butt. Two together makes it easier and nicer but I don't want it to be a necessity of finance. I hope you find someone nice that makes you smile.

 

[tery]

Dating a person at 70 or any age is a good idea.
Dating strangers on the computer could be a bad idea - She might be a Him.

 

[JPKmusicman]

I can't believe nobody said this yet. You gotta be ok being alone first. Otherwise you're just using them for a band-aide. For example, long story short. 4-5 years ago a friend tells me about a girl who likes me, I say no thanks (what are we in grade school? Weird). She came off as desperate and I was just not attracted to her. So they end up getting together, eventually they get married. She killed herself a few weeks ago. Getting a guy did not solve her problem. He got stuck cleaning up a huge mess. RIP Kathy.

 

[4 Cat Slim]

Best of luck. It's not something I'd want to do as I approach 70.
One big reason is the likely increased possibly of the onset of age-related health issues
by either party. Another would be problems with estranged children, grandchildren or even
great grandchildren with substance abuse issues or legal problems.
I just want to live out my last years with as little drama as possible.

 

[Dostradamas]

Split with the wife just before my daughters third birthday in 2008.
She is almost eighteen, might be time for me to look around soon.

I realized I was single my entire 40's the other day, maybe a handful of dates, no relationships.

I am in my 50's and this site is the sum total of my social media presence, not sure but I may have missed my window.

 

[2HBStrat]

At 70 years old I just went through my second relationship break up. I don’t know what experiences you guys are having but dating is not for the feint of heart. I’m using online sites because you at least get some volume of potential candidates. If they are on the site they are looking for partners too. At any rate it seems that I can accept a lot during the first 90 days. After that the small differences become more noticeable. The next step seems to be are those differences tolerable. I don’t seem to get past the final step. At any rate I’m not good alone. I need a partner and companionship. So I’m back at the dating site. Breakfast date this morning.

You're 70 and you've only had two relationship break ups?

 

[Downshift]

The best relationship advice I can give is, you gotta be friends first. Two people that really enjoy each other's company without trying to get anything out of it other than good company.

When you rush into looking for a relationship, both individuals are trying to get something from the other. Sometimes that works out just fine, but more often than not one individual can't or won't offer what the other is seeking.

Slow down. Make a friend. Start the relationship the way you would have in high school. Hang out. Go to lunch. Get to know each others' quirks, humor, communication, etc. Get to know each other's friends. Go home without wanting anything more from the other. And then, one night when you wake up at 3am and you can't get the other off your mind, you know it's time to move into commitment.

And then, be bold and mighty forces will aid you.

 

[getbent]

 

[Alamo]

Get a dog or cat. They will accept that at this age (I'm 75) you are set in your ways.

Being a widower no woman could ever pass my expectations. Just date if you need human companionship.

Best on-line/on-leash dating service
.
You can't imagine who you bump into, when walking your dog.
have some treats in your pocket for your ...and her dog. she's most likely's gonna have some treats too.
do the same route the following days, the dogs will know each other anyhow.
one can take the time to get to know the owner.

 

[blowtorch]

"What night is it?" "Friday, Dallas is on!"
what a great modern re-imagining film adaptation of that classic story

 

[David Barnett]

My dad remarried at age 71, about nine months after my mom died. The busybodies at his church couldn't leave it alone and hooked him up with a local widow, they stayed married until he died at 85, so I guess it worked. He really couldn't cope with being alone.