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Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Drak, Apr 9, 2021.
But, their thinking can "evolve".
How many psychologists does it take to change a lightbulb?
Just one, but the lightbulb has to want to change.
You beat me to it !
Not really. You can modify your behavior but for the most part you are who you are.
Sometimes it's not a question of change, but of self-actualisation.
It took me about 47 years to realise who I was.
Before that, I'd been busy not knowing.
A lot of people can spend their entire lives not being able to articulate who they really are.
Don't most of us get a bit wiser as we age?
Some people remain .... all their lives.
People change every day. The person I was in 1981 doesn't exist anymore.
If they want to then yes but if it's because you want them to then no.
you can change but.........
proceed with caution!
I seem to have gotten heavier of late. Is that a change?
At times people do shed their skin and become an entirely different being. However, having said that, the very best predictor of future human individual behavior is still simply what historical behavior for that person was.
My grandfather drank heavily after coming back from the war.
Did that for about 40 years.
I won't go into detail but one day he said "That's it. No more drinking and I can do this on my own."
He made up his mind and changed who he was, overnight.
We enjoyed the company of my Grandfather for many years after that.
I've never been more proud of anyone.
Yes, there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There's still time to change the road you're on
"Is it strange I should change? I don't know. Why don't you ask her?"
Neil Young, Buffalo Springfield song "Mr. Soul."
Are you sure you’re asking the right question?
People who ask this tend to be judging others by their worst behaviors (otherwise why would it occur to you that “change” would be necessary in the first place?), or even one single bad act, and then defining the person’s character for their entire life by those behaviors.
But perhaps someone who made a significant mistake in their past is actually a wonderful person and you just aren’t willing to believe that the mistake was uncharacteristic.
Of course, then there are those who are rotten to the core permanently and can’t or won’t change.
Everybody changes and always have. In otherwords, nothing has changed.
I don't know if people can change but I quit a 12-year pack-a-day cigarette habit 40 years ago.
Change is the only constant. People can't not change.