I don't go by today's standards, as today's standards are pretty lame in many ways, both artistically and socially. Having said that, those first two incidents - it sounds like he doesn't know how to deal with people. Frank Zappa was a task master, and did not tolerate unprofessional performance or behavior. Yet you can read (and hear a few instances) of him dealing with his band members. He never had to threaten and intimidate. There are other examples of band leaders who wouldn't tolerate BS, but didn't need to swear at people and use threats. It's enough to let someone know what they are doing wrong, what the expectation is, and if they don't meet it, that they will be replaced. Then if they don't do what's expected, replace them, no second chances. That gets the job done. I agree with you in general, but in the case of Buddy Rich, I think there's no reason to speak to people that way. In fact, I've personally experienced that sort of thing as being counter productive. It makes people afraid, then they perform poorly, and actually tend to make more mistakes.