Broken Hearts Club

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by JayFreddy, Jul 9, 2019.

  1. JayFreddy

    JayFreddy Poster Extraordinaire

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    Sometimes it's hard to let go.

    Everyone warned me.

    Of course I did not listen.
     
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    That's a haiku BTW... Lol

    I have a friend whose wife cheated on him AND wants to take the house that he owned outright before they were married.

    He wanted to forgive her and work on healing their relationship. She wanted his house and her young boyfriend.

    That was a year ago. The young boyfriend has since moved on. Looks like my friend will have to sell the house and give her half.

    I got off lucky by comparison.
     
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    Been there (more than once).You need friends around now and I guess your guitar will be one of them.
    Sorry, life's got some sharp corners at times. :(
     
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    Ah romance, I miss it.
    Sorta.
     
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  6. Nickadermis

    Nickadermis Friend of Leo's

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    My ex came and spent the weekend with me this last weekend . Her Mum had just passed away from cancer :(

    I sure miss her Mum :cry:
     
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  7. JayFreddy

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    I'm sorry for your loss. For real.
     
  8. IrishTeleDan

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    Time heals. Stay active. Go full on no contact, especially social media and extra-especially dont drunk dial! Also, don't look at old photos.
     
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    aerhed Friend of Leo's

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    Yup find your friends. I was just discussing the forthcoming campaign with General Gage when Mr ASAT snuck onto my lap again.
     
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    Is this possible in Texas? I don't think it is in CA.

    People that stoop to this level need to be drawn & quartered in the town square. They obviously have no shame.
     
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    Sounds right. I don't have a single photo or keep-sake from my past relationships (except for two kids). I bin everything and move on, emotionally and regionally. Sometimes any move is better than no move and the change has always been cleansing and interesting for me.
    I think sometimes a break-up can be longer-lasting than mourning a death because that's final and you've been confronted with the ultimate goodbye at the graveside. An unwanted broken relationship has no closure as such; hence a new set of circumstances is the way forward. Or something like that...
     
  12. JayFreddy

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    Yes, photos are a tough one. I don't drink much, but even still, my friends are sick of hearing about it.

    I wish my loyalty wasn't so stubborn. It keeps going long after it should have burned itself out.

    When I was younger it was easier to refocus... Then again, my priorities were different too! Lol
     
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    She won't get half the house, but she can force the sale and get a percentage of the proceeds. Likely around 20%.
     
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    Been there and still love my ex.
    We were together since 1982.
    Time to move on and start living. Travel's good for the soul.
     
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    Split stuff and move it all to a storage locker, 'neat and clean sells' at the house, stage with some furniture (about 1/3rd what may have been there) and sell the house, maybe even with the staging furniture staying. Right now is top-o-the-market home sales, get it on the market by Aug 1st to catch the going back to school buyers or it will sit until January when the big swing of buyers happens again but the economy may be different by then. Then get an apartment for a year to figure out next plans. Look up youtube 'tiny home' and 'stealth camper' videos and contemplate that option ...

    (Count the shoes and hide the guitars! Doh!)

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    Nickadermis Friend of Leo's

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    Thank You ! To be honest, my ex is still my best friend :) we just can’t live with each other for extended periods of time . Her Mum was amazing !
     
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    Love hurts!
    Few are fortunate to have lifelong loves, even fewer who keep the romance alive.
     
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    My HS sweetheart broke up with me 40 years ago, I never got over it...
     
  19. Mike Eskimo

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    Very true.

    And - not commenting on this thread so much but there have been some long ones where a bunch of bitter divorced dudes mention that’s it’s happened a bunch of times /way more than once.

    I don’t get that .

    And remember ,if you got divorced/split up with someone you married in your early 20’s ?

    You can’t count that one .

    That’s knucklehead decision making and it’s more common than staying together with someone you married that young.

    Good luck to everybody . Just got done with a mellow bike ride with my wife of 20 years . We good-naturedly argued the whole ride . It was fun
     
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    Not a lawyer, so my opinion MAY not hold up in court......but what I was told at the time of my divorce (1980) is that, IF your friend owned his house in entirety BEFORE the marriage, she can't touch it. If he was still making payments, she can claim half of the equity accrued during the time of their union. Texas is a community property state, with NO alimony allowed. Child support, on the other hand, can be brutal.
     
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