Band Troubles... am I crazy?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by dragonfly66, May 19, 2019.

  1. Mid Life Crisis

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    That's gotta be the best way, otherwise it'll create an atmosphere at the gig. Do the gig to the best of your ability, pack everything up and then tell them before everyone heads for home.
     
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    Given the ages of the guys in your band, and yours, my considered opinion is that you are all simultaneously entering menopause. :D
     
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    Straight to the heart of the matter. I like that.
     
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    Modified.
     
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    Good question, I don't think it's weaselly to do that, I'd do the same thing. Try to have a good gig with the guys w/out any weirdness and then end it. It doesn't sound there there is a massive calendar of upcoming gigs to consider...or is there?
     
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    Just make sure you collect your share of the pay first. Personally, I'd wait until the next day to give them the news.
     
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    Yeah get paid before quitting. These fellows might find it too "complicated" to pay you after you (politely) quit their nonsense.

    I can see this from different sides, and to an extent it depends on each person. I tried doing a duo with a singer/woodwind player but one problem for me was, he wouldn't use a mic in rehearsal and kept asking me to turn down until I was mostly hearing the 'clack' of my guitar pick. That's how low the level was. I like to rehearse at least loud enough to drown out the pick noise and get a little 'guitar tone' happening ya know? Especially where the guitar is the only thing supporting the voice. I felt bad for the guy because he's quite a good musician but has a hard time finding players to collaborate. An acoustic guitarist would be best for him, but not my thing these days. So we each have to decide how much do we want to compromise on questions like this.

    That experience of mine is nothing like yours now of course where the levels are painful. Consider next rehearsal taking along an SPL meter... that should really send them into a tizzy.
     
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    Sounds like way too much work, and not enough fun. It's important to note that it's you who is having a problem. They have no problem with playing loud. Trying to change the other guys will likely continue to be a failing strategy, because they don't have a problem.
     
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    All due respect, dragonfly66, but this bands seems a very bad fit.

    Not your type/style/character of rehearsing and playing.
    Not your level of mutual consideration.

    Frustrating, painful, rude, dismissive, borderline abusive....

    What more signals to find/make another band do you need?

    Best of luck doing so. I know it can tough.
     
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  12. dragonfly66

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    To bring this to a close, I quit the band.
     
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