Are you a habitual person?

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  1. braveheart

    braveheart Tele-Afflicted

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    in terms of

    general behaviour
    thoughts (negative or positive)
    rituals
    etc.

    are there things (living circumstances etc) that influence that?

    Do you learn and "train" them,maybe unsconciously or not?

    Did/do your habbits cause(d) trouble for you or other people?
     
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    Most people have degrees of "obsessive/compulsive" disorder......it's when it starts affecting others that it draws attention. Many "habits" can be seen as compulsions, but are harmless or humorous. I have some "routines" that some might view as compulsions, but for most of them I have rational, logical reasons for them. Having had relatives with diagnosed OCD, I can differentiate between "habits" and destructive compulsions.
    BTW.....I HATED the TV show Monk. It used his OCD behavior as a "punchline" for people's ridicule. Are we now allowed to mock people who have cancer or AIDS????????
     
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    I didn't use to be but developing habits has helped me deal with anxiety, especially as I've gotten older.
     
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    Most people would be shocked to learn how much of their behavior is habitual.
     
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    What do you mean with :Many "habits" can be seen as compulsions? Why a compulsion (beside the mental disorder)?
     
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    braveheart Tele-Afflicted

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    right,glad that it helped you (and me, too), but habits (bad thoughts spiral) also can lead to anxiety/depression (I know that)..
     
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    Yes, but I am flexible and highly adaptive.
     
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    I'd say the weather and the change in sunrise time drives my habits, so the answer would be "no".

    I intentually try to stay away from habits just to keep everyone guessing.:D
     
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    To some observers, a "habit " that you practice (eating the same thing for breakfast, the way you shower, the process you perform in driving a car) can be viewed as a compulsive behavior. Even if you have truly logical and rational reasons for that behavior, if someone doesn't accept your rationale as THEIR rationale, they think you're simply being compulsive. And BTW.....obsessive/compulsive behavior is NOT intrinsically bad......it's only when it affects others or becomes debilitating to you that it needs to be dealt with. Like sixstringbastard touched on, habits and rituals can be comforting and calming when dealing with life's unsettling occurrences. Washing your hands regularly is a good thing. (especially right now) Washing your hands to the point that your skin is raw is not.....and yet that is a common thing with some forms of OCD.
    I, and many others, tend to stick to a general ritual at bedtime. It is a way of acknowledging that it's time to go to sleep, and our bodies (and minds) get conditioned to recognizing the procedure. Mental health professionals don't consider this to be a problem, unless we become irrational if the process is interrupted. So, usually, the whole "diagnosis" of "compulsion" is in the eye of the beholder......and the benefit or harm it does.
     
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    I'm very habitual, and I credit (or blame) my father for this trait.
    I seldom saw him upset or flustered (unlike mist adults in my life), and I
    deliberately tried to be the same way.
    The odd corollary to this was that the inevitable disruptions to his routine
    didn't rattle him.
     
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    Very habit oriented. Life seems easier if you stick to a ritual for the basics.
     
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    Thorough would be a better word, if I buy a second hand instrument I will strip it to its component pieces and wash and sterilise all plastics And clean as much as I can, with a guitar I now find it hard to buy second hand and haven’t for years I couldn’t live with someone’s dents or scrapes or sweaty miasma would make me ill and worried Here’s a recent Akai s900 sampler I bought second hand all sparkling and shiny after a sexy scrub up. Nothing to be to concerned about really as all items were once component parts before being assembled.
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    I have lots of habits, and as someone mentioned, they help with anxiety.

    I don't think mine are "compulsions" per se. They're mental shortcuts so I don't have to actively think about "did I brush all teeth surfaces adequately" or "did I make coffee like I like it".
     
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    Thanks for giving one example of harmless.....but DEFINITE OCD! ;)
     
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    I'm a habitual anarchist.
     
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    Are we distinguishing between vices and habits?
     
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    That's what's got me worried, son.
     
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    As far as time management, yes. I am usually the first person to arrive at anything that has a time assigned to it. Meetings, appointments, flights etc. I believe it started being the first kid at school (someone has to be, so it was me). In the military being late for a flight had implications which re-enforced my behavior. I find nothing wrong with this, my wife considers it an obsession. Hard to say if it causes her any harm; she adapted and we've been married 47 years. My son didn't like it much; although I didn't force him to be that way.
     
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    I was raised catholic. I love rituals and habits, it makes me feel like there is order and it calms me.

    I adapt when I need to and I adopt a new habit or practice to support the 'new thing'...

    all good. moderation....
     
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