ANTIDOTE TO A DIFFICULT WEEK.

Kandinskyesque

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It's always a difficult week for me at this time of the year.
Apologies in advance for the long post.

Sunday was the 7th anniversary of my closest friend's passing. Bowel cancer and weeks before his 50th birthday. I've never felt closer to another human being despite him spending his last 10 years in Vancouver. He even introduced me to a girl who he swam with in the Scottish team and she eventually became Mrs K.
It was the guitar that built that friendship; we were both 10y/o altar boys in the church, from similar large families and took up the guitar at the same time.

Tuesday was 39 years since my brain injury, that one random event that changed the course of my life. A miracle I survived at the time, not many did with my type of injury back in '84.
There's a lot of kerfuffle going on at the moment with it: impending hospital assessments, some unanticipated later in life problems/complications and the involvement of politicians and lawyers as the misdiagnoses and missed diagnoses are being unpicked.
All due to one random trip on a pavement into an uncovered public utility trench. Two days in the casualty ward before they noticed the cerebral fluid coming out my left ear. Then 5-7 hours of having my skull removed while they removed the haemorrhages and clots.
Strangely the first thing I asked for when I came out of the induced coma was my guitar.

Tomorrow will be 25 years, since I lost my engineering job as a result of my unreliable health. I haven't had a proper job since, it's been a mixture of childcare, renovating houses for myself and family and playing music or coaching young singers.
I work when I can, always grateful when I can and give 100%.

Anyways, as an antidote on Tuesday afternoon, I jumped into Mrs K's car with the Godin nylon and my wee THR5a battery amp in the back, along with something for a fire, a Kelly kettle and some tea bags,
Almost on autopilot, I took the 90 minute drive to Glen Lyon in Perthshire.
Stopped for a snack and coffee at the Fortingall Hotel at the start of the glen, and where the oldest living tree in Europe resides in the adjacent churchyard; a favoured spot for me, and also in the past a place of choice for Aldous Huxley, CS Lewis and Eric Blair (aka Orwell).
Then switched my phone off and made the 30 miles single track drive down to the end of Glen Lyon catching the odd view of Schiehallion in my rear view mirror as I negotiated the twists and turns, stopping once to 'allow' a 10 pointer stag cross in front of me.

Not my photo but this is where I ended up...
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My favourite place, just as dusk was settling in at 6pm and a full moon, clear sky (-10 celsius), and plenty owls, deer, white and brown hares for company.

I sat by the small fire I lit, for some navel gazing and I also noticed a lot of periods of no thought (after the event of course), just getting lost in the vast landscape and starry sky.
I played my guitar a good bit, some eerie DADGAD celtic tunes and occasionally retreated to the back seat of the car to allow my fingers to navigate the fretboard.

By the time I emptied my bladder onto the dying embers of my fire (a ritual I always do), it was midnight. 6 hours had passed in the blinking of an eye.
I took the drive home slowly on back roads (3 hours), in silence, running guitar scales in my head (I'm fairly new to theory) all the way home.

I slept most of yesterday, occasionally reaching for my bedside guitar to run some scales. It's the one constant in my ever changing life and despite all my GASsing, tone chasing and sausage finger days, I'm grateful for every second I've put my fingers on the strings.

Woody Guthrie's famous sticker comes to mind "This machine kills fascists" my sticker, if I ever get one, will say "This machine soothes souls".

It's more than just a tool!!!

Rant over.
 

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Hey man, i feel ya. I hope you feel better soon.

If I had a tough time or a rough week, sometimes I just open my guitar case and look at my guitar.

Maybe I’ll pick it up and run some chords or a lick or two. And Instantly feel better.
 

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Good that your day trip seems to have soothed your soul.
Looks like a beautiful place to blow away the cobwebs if a bit on the chilly side.
 

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Sorry for your loss, your injury, and your ongoing struggles, @Kandinskyesque. But FWIW, you're certainly dealing with it all with great grace. I'm very glad that the music is there for you. Thanks for such a meaningful start to my own day, and all best wishes to you.
 

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When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
 

AAT65

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Good on you Mr K — life’s been tough but you’re still there strumming and running scales! Glad to hear that a piece of our country’s amazing countryside was able to bring you some solace.
 

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Interesting day!
I doubt I would or could really spend that many hours like that, really cant sit by a fire in the cold any more due to my set of damages.
As for anniversary dates, March 13 will be 25 years since I got off the dope, but not my actual clean date, which will be May 13. I had to guess once I got fully honest about this and that....

Fall into a utility trench?
Oh thats gotta hurt!
Not funny of course but those of us who have taken a lotta hits?
Laugh or cry, laugh or cry, that is the question.
In 1975 I think, I landed on my head in a swimming pool, dove straight down the side thinking it was past the deep middle but it was only five feet deep there.
Really probably should have died, but damned if I was not rewarded with decades of pain!

March 13 1999 a very dear friend hung herself while it happened that I was calling her on the phone repeatedly all day, to tell her I was going to go visit and help her get into a psych ward, since she kept attempting suicide and her "support" was not big on the value of medical intervention.

I guess I have been a bit of a vagabond, never had a close friend that long. Maybe I wish to keep escaping something in the past?

Anyhow, sounds like a really nice road trip!
My guitar playing is indeed my tether to sanity and my shield against the inner and world despairs.
I relate a lot to your stories, thoughts, values, and past experiences.
Thank you for being you and bringing some YOU here!
 

Toto'sDad

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It's always a difficult week for me at this time of the year.
Apologies in advance for the long post.

Sunday was the 7th anniversary of my closest friend's passing. Bowel cancer and weeks before his 50th birthday. I've never felt closer to another human being despite him spending his last 10 years in Vancouver. He even introduced me to a girl who he swam with in the Scottish team and she eventually became Mrs K.
It was the guitar that built that friendship; we were both 10y/o altar boys in the church, from similar large families and took up the guitar at the same time.

Tuesday was 39 years since my brain injury, that one random event that changed the course of my life. A miracle I survived at the time, not many did with my type of injury back in '84.
There's a lot of kerfuffle going on at the moment with it: impending hospital assessments, some unanticipated later in life problems/complications and the involvement of politicians and lawyers as the misdiagnoses and missed diagnoses are being unpicked.
All due to one random trip on a pavement into an uncovered public utility trench. Two days in the casualty ward before they noticed the cerebral fluid coming out my left ear. Then 5-7 hours of having my skull removed while they removed the haemorrhages and clots.
Strangely the first thing I asked for when I came out of the induced coma was my guitar.

Tomorrow will be 25 years, since I lost my engineering job as a result of my unreliable health. I haven't had a proper job since, it's been a mixture of childcare, renovating houses for myself and family and playing music or coaching young singers.
I work when I can, always grateful when I can and give 100%.

Anyways, as an antidote on Tuesday afternoon, I jumped into Mrs K's car with the Godin nylon and my wee THR5a battery amp in the back, along with something for a fire, a Kelly kettle and some tea bags,
Almost on autopilot, I took the 90 minute drive to Glen Lyon in Perthshire.
Stopped for a snack and coffee at the Fortingall Hotel at the start of the glen, and where the oldest living tree in Europe resides in the adjacent churchyard; a favoured spot for me, and also in the past a place of choice for Aldous Huxley, CS Lewis and Eric Blair (aka Orwell).
Then switched my phone off and made the 30 miles single track drive down to the end of Glen Lyon catching the odd view of Schiehallion in my rear view mirror as I negotiated the twists and turns, stopping once to 'allow' a 10 pointer stag cross in front of me.

Not my photo but this is where I ended up...
View attachment 1094005
My favourite place, just as dusk was settling in at 6pm and a full moon, clear sky (-10 celsius), and plenty owls, deer, white and brown hares for company.

I sat by the small fire I lit, for some navel gazing and I also noticed a lot of periods of no thought (after the event of course), just getting lost in the vast landscape and starry sky.
I played my guitar a good bit, some eerie DADGAD celtic tunes and occasionally retreated to the back seat of the car to allow my fingers to navigate the fretboard.

By the time I emptied my bladder onto the dying embers of my fire (a ritual I always do), it was midnight. 6 hours had passed in the blinking of an eye.
I took the drive home slowly on back roads (3 hours), in silence, running guitar scales in my head (I'm fairly new to theory) all the way home.

I slept most of yesterday, occasionally reaching for my bedside guitar to run some scales. It's the one constant in my ever changing life and despite all my GASsing, tone chasing and sausage finger days, I'm grateful for every second I've put my fingers on the strings.

Woody Guthrie's famous sticker comes to mind "This machine kills fascists" my sticker, if I ever get one, will say "This machine soothes souls".

It's more than just a tool!!!

Rant over.
I'm sorry for your problems, and hope you if not get over them, learn a little better each day to deal with them. A silver lining in the cloud is that you were blessed to live in a part of the world that offers perhaps as much beauty as nature can share with you.
 

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When despair for the world grows in me
and I wake in the night at the least sound
in fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be,
I go and lie down where the wood drake
rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds.
I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.
By Wendell Berry
 

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It's always a difficult week for me at this time of the year.
Apologies in advance for the long post.

Sunday was the 7th anniversary of my closest friend's passing. Bowel cancer and weeks before his 50th birthday. I've never felt closer to another human being despite him spending his last 10 years in Vancouver. He even introduced me to a girl who he swam with in the Scottish team and she eventually became Mrs K.
It was the guitar that built that friendship; we were both 10y/o altar boys in the church, from similar large families and took up the guitar at the same time.

Tuesday was 39 years since my brain injury, that one random event that changed the course of my life. A miracle I survived at the time, not many did with my type of injury back in '84.
There's a lot of kerfuffle going on at the moment with it: impending hospital assessments, some unanticipated later in life problems/complications and the involvement of politicians and lawyers as the misdiagnoses and missed diagnoses are being unpicked.
All due to one random trip on a pavement into an uncovered public utility trench. Two days in the casualty ward before they noticed the cerebral fluid coming out my left ear. Then 5-7 hours of having my skull removed while they removed the haemorrhages and clots.
Strangely the first thing I asked for when I came out of the induced coma was my guitar.

Tomorrow will be 25 years, since I lost my engineering job as a result of my unreliable health. I haven't had a proper job since, it's been a mixture of childcare, renovating houses for myself and family and playing music or coaching young singers.
I work when I can, always grateful when I can and give 100%.

Anyways, as an antidote on Tuesday afternoon, I jumped into Mrs K's car with the Godin nylon and my wee THR5a battery amp in the back, along with something for a fire, a Kelly kettle and some tea bags,
Almost on autopilot, I took the 90 minute drive to Glen Lyon in Perthshire.
Stopped for a snack and coffee at the Fortingall Hotel at the start of the glen, and where the oldest living tree in Europe resides in the adjacent churchyard; a favoured spot for me, and also in the past a place of choice for Aldous Huxley, CS Lewis and Eric Blair (aka Orwell).
Then switched my phone off and made the 30 miles single track drive down to the end of Glen Lyon catching the odd view of Schiehallion in my rear view mirror as I negotiated the twists and turns, stopping once to 'allow' a 10 pointer stag cross in front of me.

Not my photo but this is where I ended up...
View attachment 1094005
My favourite place, just as dusk was settling in at 6pm and a full moon, clear sky (-10 celsius), and plenty owls, deer, white and brown hares for company.

I sat by the small fire I lit, for some navel gazing and I also noticed a lot of periods of no thought (after the event of course), just getting lost in the vast landscape and starry sky.
I played my guitar a good bit, some eerie DADGAD celtic tunes and occasionally retreated to the back seat of the car to allow my fingers to navigate the fretboard.

By the time I emptied my bladder onto the dying embers of my fire (a ritual I always do), it was midnight. 6 hours had passed in the blinking of an eye.
I took the drive home slowly on back roads (3 hours), in silence, running guitar scales in my head (I'm fairly new to theory) all the way home.

I slept most of yesterday, occasionally reaching for my bedside guitar to run some scales. It's the one constant in my ever changing life and despite all my GASsing, tone chasing and sausage finger days, I'm grateful for every second I've put my fingers on the strings.

Woody Guthrie's famous sticker comes to mind "This machine kills fascists" my sticker, if I ever get one, will say "This machine soothes souls".

It's more than just a tool!!!

Rant over.
Sounds like a nice way to spend the day.
YEP!!!
 

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It's always a difficult week for me at this time of the year.
Apologies in advance for the long post.

Sunday was the 7th anniversary of my closest friend's passing. Bowel cancer and weeks before his 50th birthday. I've never felt closer to another human being despite him spending his last 10 years in Vancouver. He even introduced me to a girl who he swam with in the Scottish team and she eventually became Mrs K.
It was the guitar that built that friendship; we were both 10y/o altar boys in the church, from similar large families and took up the guitar at the same time.

Tuesday was 39 years since my brain injury, that one random event that changed the course of my life. A miracle I survived at the time, not many did with my type of injury back in '84.
There's a lot of kerfuffle going on at the moment with it: impending hospital assessments, some unanticipated later in life problems/complications and the involvement of politicians and lawyers as the misdiagnoses and missed diagnoses are being unpicked.
All due to one random trip on a pavement into an uncovered public utility trench. Two days in the casualty ward before they noticed the cerebral fluid coming out my left ear. Then 5-7 hours of having my skull removed while they removed the haemorrhages and clots.
Strangely the first thing I asked for when I came out of the induced coma was my guitar.

Tomorrow will be 25 years, since I lost my engineering job as a result of my unreliable health. I haven't had a proper job since, it's been a mixture of childcare, renovating houses for myself and family and playing music or coaching young singers.
I work when I can, always grateful when I can and give 100%.

Anyways, as an antidote on Tuesday afternoon, I jumped into Mrs K's car with the Godin nylon and my wee THR5a battery amp in the back, along with something for a fire, a Kelly kettle and some tea bags,
Almost on autopilot, I took the 90 minute drive to Glen Lyon in Perthshire.
Stopped for a snack and coffee at the Fortingall Hotel at the start of the glen, and where the oldest living tree in Europe resides in the adjacent churchyard; a favoured spot for me, and also in the past a place of choice for Aldous Huxley, CS Lewis and Eric Blair (aka Orwell).
Then switched my phone off and made the 30 miles single track drive down to the end of Glen Lyon catching the odd view of Schiehallion in my rear view mirror as I negotiated the twists and turns, stopping once to 'allow' a 10 pointer stag cross in front of me.

Not my photo but this is where I ended up...
View attachment 1094005
My favourite place, just as dusk was settling in at 6pm and a full moon, clear sky (-10 celsius), and plenty owls, deer, white and brown hares for company.

I sat by the small fire I lit, for some navel gazing and I also noticed a lot of periods of no thought (after the event of course), just getting lost in the vast landscape and starry sky.
I played my guitar a good bit, some eerie DADGAD celtic tunes and occasionally retreated to the back seat of the car to allow my fingers to navigate the fretboard.

By the time I emptied my bladder onto the dying embers of my fire (a ritual I always do), it was midnight. 6 hours had passed in the blinking of an eye.
I took the drive home slowly on back roads (3 hours), in silence, running guitar scales in my head (I'm fairly new to theory) all the way home.

I slept most of yesterday, occasionally reaching for my bedside guitar to run some scales. It's the one constant in my ever changing life and despite all my GASsing, tone chasing and sausage finger days, I'm grateful for every second I've put my fingers on the strings.

Woody Guthrie's famous sticker comes to mind "This machine kills fascists" my sticker, if I ever get one, will say "This machine soothes souls".

It's more than just a tool!!!

Rant over.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I wish you all the best going forward. Very thoughtful, and definitely not a rant to my way of thinking.
 
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