This is my personal take on my loved one struggling. I did not respond to the above individual who is at wits end though because statistically and also in my own experience, when family keeps helping us get through our poor choices to keep using, it enables us to continue using longer. This tends to make the using individual sicker and also does more damage in relationships with the loved ones, often resulting in bridges too badly burned to ever rebuild. What brought me to the point where I was willing to take all the suggestions the professionals made rather than my selected list, was when all my loved ones told me to stop calling them for help. I know how to get clean and sober. I can pass the information on to anyone who is willing and ready to do it. I do not know how to get anyone else to get clean and sober, and do not know how to get a family to get their loved one to get clean and sober. I've seen how "helping" hurts though. And yet I cannot turn my back on a loved one. This is not a strength, more of a weakness.