Someone who has a dog already, maybe an older one or just not social? Someone who is allergic to dogs? Incredibly inconsiderateA dog! Hurray!
Who complains about a dog coming to visit?!
The fact the hag has a dog gives her quite a few extra credit points!
Lighten up! Go buy some toys and treats...there's a dog coming to visit!
Someone who has a dog already, maybe an older one or just not social? Someone who is allergic to dogs? Incredibly inconsiderate
I shoulda figgered, but agree, the drinking incident more than the dog would have them finding a hotel for me. I've lifetime-banned friends out of my circle for stuff like this.My post most mostly in jest...but not entirely!
The OP's post illustrates that people are WAY more troublesome than dogs! The issue is wifey.
You can leave the dog but take wifey to the Motel 6!
So I know this isn’t Reddit but I feel like asking if anyone thinks I am the A/H in this situation.
Months ago my college buddy tells me he’ll be in town this week for a company meeting, and asks if he can stay with me over the weekend. I say of course, as I love the guy and we’ve been close for many many years.
But I do not care for his second wife. They stayed here once, and it was a debacle. I had a barbecue with lots of friends over while they were here, she got roaring drunk and insulted everyone and acted like a complete @ss, and broke one of my nicest wine glasses and lit (and left) candles burning in the guest room during peak fire season not long after I almost had my house burn down in a wildfire. And that was just one particular day. His kid (from his late wife), who I am very close with, can’t stand her and has pretty much severed her relationship with her dad. And to be clear, the new wife is also fairly objectionable when sober.
So that’s the history. I didn’t know that she would be coming with him on this trip until last week, though I guess I always knew it was a possibility. I figured I would just suck it up and put up with her since it’s his wife and all that. I would be a hospitable host.
They are scheduled to arrive tomorrow and stay for four nights. But tonight he tells me she is driving down tomorrow so she can bring her dog with here. To my home. For four nights. I had never imagined this was on the agenda.
I love dogs and cats but I have have no pets and I want no pets. And I don’t want any pets in my house, even for a short time, since, as they say, sh*t happens. Lots of other things happen too. Dogs in new surroundings are known to mark territory. And I don’t want any such things happening in my house, where I have collected a lot of nice furnishings and frankly don’t want any pet mess of any kind, or even any pet hair. I know it won’t kill me, and lots of stuff can be cleaned up, but that’s just how I like to keep my house.
They knew months ago they would be coming, but only tell me the night before that they will be bringing her dog? To me, that is just wrong for any guest to do.
So I decided I would not put up with it, as I would be pissed off at her the whole time for taking advantage of me in this way if they stayed with the dog. Especially given how she acted he last time she was here. And I would not be able to relax and enjoy their visit. So I told him to have her find someplace else for the dog to stay while they are here, like with one of her kids or friends near their home.
I was really going to try to give her a second chance and treat her with hospitality despite the debcale of her prior visit, which was years ago. But telling me only the night before she was bringing a dog when they could have asked if it were ok months ago, well, that’s a non starter. And actually, I was just informed they would be bringing a dog, it wasn’t even phrased to ask if it were OK.
I guess you could say it got my dander up (pun intended). Is it ok for guests to do this and not ask in advance? AITA? I think not.
(Hmmm, maybe I should tell him to bring the dog and leave her home. But, shucks, that option sadly isn’t available)
All of the numerous company meetings that I have attended (that involved travel) included accommodations arranged outright or covered on expense account.So I know this isn’t Reddit but I feel like asking if anyone thinks I am the A/H in this situation.
Months ago my college buddy tells me he’ll be in town this week for a company meeting, and asks if he can stay with me over the weekend. . . . .
The company did pay for his accommodations. The company event ended last night. He is staying in town through the weekend, which is after the company event. Hence his asking to stay with me. Which, normally, is fine with me.All of the numerous company meetings that I have attended (that involved travel) included accommodations arranged outright or covered on expense account.