A Beloved Aunt Passed Away This Week.......

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by tonytrout, Feb 14, 2020 at 5:49 PM.

  1. Steve Holt

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    I've always been afraid of the "last memory seeing them in a casket" thing but in my experience that fear doesn't pan out. Sure I remember seeing my grandpa lying in his casket if I purposefully think about it, but mostly I remember what he was like alive, how I knew him for 99.9% of our time here. That .1% is the scary part but it hasn't lingered for me. I got to be with my grandma for several days in hospice while she drew her last breaths. And we even lingered for an hour or more with her after it happened. It was such a peaceful place that it didn't feel weird at all.

    Bad example when you're grieving a family member, but when I had to say bye to my dog I had dreading that moment for years. I was closer to that dog than most people in my life. My sisters joked that when millie died I would just curl up in a ball and whither away and I was afraid they'd be right. I was so scared that someday I would be in the room when it happened and that would be the only way I could ever remember her. But I still just remember how she was when she was my beloved companion.

    I'd really encourage you to go and be with your family. Funerals are for the living.
     
  2. brookdalebill

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    Sorry for your loss, brother
     
  3. rangercaster

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    Very sorry to hear this ... grief takes time ...
     
  4. Tenderfoot

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    If I were in your place, I would go and pay my last respect.
     
  5. dented

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    So sad for the loss and the outcome. Best wishes for all who knew her.
     
  6. bsman

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    Sorry to hear about this. Family are precious, and I hope the memories keep her alive for you.
     
  7. Brad Pittiful

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    sorry to hear
     
  8. Stubee

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    Man, that’s a tough one. I’m sorry for you and all those who loved and were loved by her.
     
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    My thoughts are with you Tony. A sad loss indeed, but if it were me in your shoes I would attend just for your Aunts sake.. S
     
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    Best wishes. In terms of your request for prayers, consider it done!
     
  11. Nightclub Dwight

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    My sympathies to you and your family.

    My mom died from a staph infection. She suffered for years, with the damn infection hiding out in her spinal column, only to pop up in random places around her body. I'm not sure whether it is better to go fairly quickly like your aunt, or have it drag on for years like my mom's experience. Mostly, I just wish they could fix things like this. For all of our medical technology it often turns out to be the lowliest of problems that do us in.

    I wish you peace in your heart.
     
  12. zosofan

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    Very sorry to hear this!

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    I don't want my last memories of her being the one lying in a casket.
    Saw my Dad, dead in a casket when I was 11. It was nothing I should have seen and remembered his face, looking, dead. My brother died a year ago. He died at the hospital, I kissed him on the forehead and said goodbye. You don't have to view the casket, but go. Everyone will need you.
     
  14. Mike Eskimo

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    Sorry for your loss Tony
     
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