3 members of a band starting a new band without one member...cool?

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  1. 2HBStrat

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    A practice thing...three guys want to rehearse every week and one guy keeps cancelling, so...start a new band without him. Any problems with that?
     
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    Just tell him that you are going to move on without him....have auditions for a replacement, but take your time......Trios are cool anyway
     
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    It's one of the joys of being in a band.
     
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    Just stop calling him for rehearsals or gigs. He'll come to realize he's no longer in the band.
     
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    So are you the odd one out?
     
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    No...
     
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    It worked out okay for the three remaining guys in Pink Floyd. As long as you can afford David Gilmour’s lawyers, you’re good to go! ;)

     
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    What do their mommies say about it?
     
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    Yeah! That’s WAY better than calling him up to say it’s not working and you’re moving on without him.
     
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    Is this thread about that other thread?
     
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    In my opinion y’all should just move on. Explain to the “out” player the situation and continue on....without him/her
    I’ve been in situations where one member tried coasting along. It was a detriment to the progress of the others. It sucked. Cutting the slacker lose was the only way to continue.
    Sometimes bad blood and hurt feelings were involved. But, such is life
     
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    "we want to play together every week, so we're going to need someone else"

    win/win

    I don't see a problem. some people have different needs. dispense with drama and move on.
     
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    Business is business, but be sure to do it the adult way and just tell that member your decision. Nothing worse than just avoiding the problem and hope he gets the clue, not fair to anyone.
     
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    We kicked a guy out of a band years ago (60s). I was on the phone with his mother for an hour over it.

    I was let go from a band without a word. I'd rather have been given a reason.
     
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    Okay, first of all, I resent you airing our dirty laundry in public here. Second of all, I TOLD you I know my triangle parts inside out and there is simply no reason to practice with you guys ever single week. And THIRD of all, I’M breaking up with YOU, not YOU breaking up with ME.

    I found two other guys who ALSO play triangle. Our new band will be Acutely Obtuse.
     
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    Always make it an honest, clean break. Just tell whoever it is they’re out.
     
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    Live by the golden rule - do unto others....

    Handle the situation with this person how you would want to be treated.

    So, yeah... just be upfront. There are much bigger issues in life than scheduling conflicts getting someone bumped from a band. Good players can usually get something else going so maybe the next gig will fit their schedule better.
     
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    Nope. Happens all the time.

    It's called the music business. He's unprofessional and has no work ethic or he's just not taking it as seriously as the rest of you.

    If someone did that at my work place they would be terminated. You don't show up for work, then you don't have a job.
     
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    no real reason to do or say anything......if hes not showing up whats the difference ?? u may decide later u wanna work with him.......essentially your "new band" is a side project

    learn those words well.......side project.....they will save alot of aggravation over the years

    maybe he will get serious at some point and you can decide if you wanna work with him then.....until or if then u and the side project just do ur thing and get better


    the real key to great bands isnt talent or work or many of the other things that get mentioned

    its can u like being in the same space together for hours.....sometimes its music.....sometimes its tv or driving or etc etc
     
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    No. Absolutely not. If he shows up, practices and delivers, he's got something to complain about. If he can't do all three of those things, no one to blame but himself.

    Can't help but think of the Ben Folds tune "The Army".

    "... Citing artistic differences the band broke up in may
    And in June reformed without me
    And they got a different name..."
     
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