I don't think anyone is saying that everyone who drinks has a problem. At 64 though, based on a lifetime of observation, I can tell you that there are a lot of people with drinking problems who are TOTALLY in denial.
I get all that and think i pretty much said the same thing in a more concise manner. My point was simply that whenever a thread like this pops up the general vibe seems to always lean towards alcohol: bad, period. It always gives that impression. And thats just not the case. Big macs are probably just as deadly if you eat them as often as alcoholics drink. But of course i DO get that some people DO drink way too much and can't stop it, same with others with a big mac habit. A macaholic if you will. But it just seems alcohol is always demonized in threads like this.Exactly. @fender4life it's obviously not a simple black and white issue. For some people it's not an issue at all, but for others, there are all kinds of ways they can have problems with alcohol. Some folks may become temperamental, violent, wreckless, or just plain embarrassing. Then, there are of course, varying levels of alcoholism.
I was a 'functional' alcohol who didn't get into trouble. It didn't affect my job. I never got a DUI, or arrested for anything. For most part, it didn't affect my relationship, not until much later. Anything bad or embarrassing that I did was usually after the party was over and my head had already hit the pillow.
When I tried to stop, or even slow down, I couldn't. Not because of willpower, it was because I became physically ill when I did. Scary stuff, like tremors, increased heart rate, vertigo, dry heaving, and even delirium and hallucinations. At first I didn't even realize that the milder symptoms were alcohol withdrawal. It wasn't until they got so bad that I had to go the hospital, and the doctor explained it was delirium tremens. From then on, I was so scared of the withdrawals that I drank not just everyday, but constantly, to the the point that it started making me really sick in different ways.
I imagine that @Fiesta Red and @Toto'sDad, just based on their stories, probably hadn't yet developed a full blown chemical dependency, but alcohol was still causing significant problems in their lives, to say the least.