Yes we have been to a couple of 'real' flamenco concerts - and they are intense!Ronda is worth a place on any bucket list, as is just about anywhere in that region of Spain away from the "Watey's Red Barrel" mob.
Mijas is my favourite place in Andalusia, I was at an incredible Flamenco night there about a dozen years ago. Inspiring enough to nudge me towards nylon strung guitars.
Fantastic passion and virtuoso musicianship and dancing