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Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by charchar11, Mar 22, 2019.
That's a salty paper weight
alot of it has to do with the fact you cant bleed blood from a rock, you do the best you can one foot infront of the other, I have always found when my back is against the wall if I reach around behind me there is always a door ( metiphorically) if you stress out over money all you will acheive is some form of stress related illness, ulcers and then the problem escalates from there, systematically see what you can do realisticly to remedy or lessen the burden, most money related issues are temporary.
unless you you owe to maficioso or the like , most institutions will work with you to get back on track given a period of time, avoidence will only make things worse , best of luck to you to find a fast efficient solution.
the only real way to eleviate the stress is to hit it straight on , drinking and smoking will not get you through this
I work at specific problems that add to stress, and I do healthy physical activities. I'm careful to make sure that intoxicants aren't giving a false read or fooling me - one beer and done... I also try to make sure my stressful moments are not misunderstood by family and friends.
Have you considered porn and masturbation?
Aye, tis be a salty paperweight matey.
Bashing the guitar around always helps me. Extra points for volume.
I think reading the comments in this thread would be enough of a de-stressor. You can see everyone has similar issues, so it should be comforting to know you're not the only one with problems. I would also suggest teaching yourself to let go of stressing about things for which you have no control. That's right, learning to relax takes practice just like any other skill. Some do it better than others, but everyone CAN do it.
To quote Mr. Ness:
"No one's exempt from a world of problems...
No one's immune to a world of pain"
Everyone loses. Everyone fails. Everyone gets rejected/denied. NO ONE on this planet is exempt.
well i used to intoxicate when i was badly in debt, one day i just lay on the floor in a stupor wishing someone would come and take me away. in the end the only person there for me and who picked me up again was myself. i got out of my flat at the beginning of summer bought a cheap car and lived in it the whole summer while i caught up with my debt. the intoxication part of my huge depression was not helpful and was probably part of my problem. but mostly i play guitar and scream my head off in a song to relieve stress now. hope you are ok buddy? things tend to sort themselves out.
nice pic love it!
I agree that tackling it head on is great, if you can
Jogging or any form of exercise releases endorphins.
After a few tough years, and at the urging of my wife and a few friends, I talked to my primary care physician.
She prescribed me a small daily dose of a Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor.
I wish I'd known about this year's ago.
And understand that I am a staunch opponent of "take a pill to cure everything mentality".
Yes, other than doing what you can to tackle the problem, vigorous exercise in any form would be the help relieve stress
CBT (not CBD) and diet modification to remove simple carbs and skip one of your meals (keto or Intermittent fasting shut down the stress machine for me, or help), and importantly, embrace the stress to some extent rather than hoping for a condition where you have none.
Anxiety and stress will never be solved if you're one hundred percent trying to avoid them.
I'm reminded of something that Adam Carolla and Jordan Peterson discussed, that you can't always be happy (or stress free), but you can pursue meaning all the time, whether you're happy, stress free, whatever.
I also build. The tactile sensation of building things really helps me a lot. Guitars, tools, whatever, and I build in a way (i'm disorganized) that's tailored to how my brain works. almost one hundred percent by hand and without absurd plans where you're operating sort of in the dark with jigs and building steps and then hoping everything goes together at the end. I build by hand and hand fit everything - it's divine.
Also, take your stress position now, and instead of assuming you want to have no stress by "X" date, write down what you're doing and whether or not you made an incremental improvement in stress today vs. yesterday. If you didn't, write down why you think you didn't and make it part of a list of things you'll conquer. A little each day, as none of us achieves greatness of any type (or even relative goodness) like the changing of a seesaw.
Your stress will materialize as anxiety and anxiety will actually change the core of your brain slowly over time, and you can with changing thought patterns change it back. The core is the primal part of your brain that maps memories and determines your reactions - it's trainable, but it works faster than your rational brain, so you have to remember that how it works quickly will be based on how you train it to react (As in, don't expect it to change in a week - back to the incremental thing).
i'm unloading all of my CBT learnings on you, my apologies.
Two other things I'd do each day. Find something you're thankful for and express gratitude for it, even if you don't feel especially thankful when you're in a rut. It's part of the ...well, changing how you view things.
That's one, and number two, I would make a point of doing something nice for someone each day, something small. And like above, write it down. When you write something, you have to repeat it, you remember it, it has a positive effect, and you see what you did rather than having a fleeting thought. It doesn't hurt to write each day what you're thankful for.
Perhaps buy a pen that feels good to write with and some kind of specialty notebook that has paper that feels nice to write on and encourages you to write neatly and slowly.
If I told you, I'd be breaking a couple forum rules.
Before retiring as a university composer, I was in a constant state of production, always working on a composition or paper. Anytime I did a substantial amount of work of good quality, I would be pretty unstressed for a while. The absolute best destressor for me was to "bring to fruition" a major project right before classes started in the fall and winter.
Now that I am in iffy health and constant pain, when things are not so good, I grab the guitar and wail. Lately, I have been having some grinding, wearing, electrical pain that makes me twitchy. While I don't recommend brainless, repetitive practice, I'll admit I can into a sort of relaxed state playing chromatic scales. It's good for listening to your tone production.
To answer accurately, I would need to know more specifically what the true source of your stress was. Meaning, when you say "financial", are you in debt for "frivolous", unnecessary debt, medical bills, or simply the cost of living? Does your lifestyle need changing, or do you need to earn more money? In another post, you asked if you needed to get a "day job".....were you being facetious? Are you getting pressure from a spouse or significant other that stresses you for a lack of income? Are you (as many have already suggested) getting ANY strenuous exercise? In a way, the question you pose is like, "How long is a piece of string?"
Even though I am now retired, I have never been "driven" to succeed or earn a lot of money.....and while I have had times of stress over money, in general I've dealt with that stress with a frugal, conservative way of living.....and it always paid off.
And...if ultimately you're basically "goofing" on us, that's OK.....if it relieves your stress, then I say, "Glad to help!"
I just try not to care all that much about anything. still, I get stressed sometimes, and the best way to deal with stress.....for me.....is to go to the firing range and pop off about 300 rounds. ah man....what a stress reliever. I always feel great after.
Unfortunately at work I smoke, I don’t at home though.
Hookers and Blow,,, never fail