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song for someone who lost his mother?

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  1. jhundt

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    my nephew's mother is dying today. She slipped in the shower, cracked her head so bad that nothing can be done to save her. They are just waiting.

    I have spoken with him and tried to say anything useful, but I can't, 'cuz there is nothing that will help.

    I would like to play him a piece of music, something appropriate. But my mind is just a blank right now. Maybe in a week I'll think of all the right songs, but right now I am open to suggestions from you all.
     
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    I wish i knew a song to tell you. I'm really sorry to hear that, and I'll be praying for your family.
     
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    I think nothing you could say or play would be of help at a time like this.
    Just be there and let him tell you what he needs.

    Tragic.
     
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    Keep quiet .A favorite piece of music can become a nightmare when associated with a death .Believe me I know sadly .
     
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    Very sad to hear, my condolences. I agree that you should let your nephew decide and voice what he needs at this point. Just being there and ready is the most important thing you can do now.

    I tell you what though, I am going to install some slip guards in my mom's tub/shower today. That's just scary and all too easy to happen.
     
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    This one is very appropriate:

     
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    I once wrote a song after I lost someone. Being a songwriter, it was good for me but I would have to agree with what was said above. Hearing a song, even years later, can snap you right back into a moment that you may not want to be in. I gave this song to my original band and we inserted it into our set. I found myself singing the song for years because people wanted to hear it. Some nights it was a bit hard to take.
     
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    musicalmartin said:
    I think this might be great wisdom and fine advice.
     
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    - Wish your family well through all


    If they would have played 'over the rainbow' during my mom's funeral, I would have
    lost it....



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    If he's just lost his mother I doubt he really wants music recommendations.
     
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    i really like 'Farther Along' .. the Byrds did a wonderful version.
     
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    Here's two, Oliver wrote these about his Mom.



     
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    this is what I go to in these kinds of situations.

    So sorry to hear the news...

    I have no idea what this song is about, but it touches something... condolences, acceptance, sadness, grief...
     
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    I'm not a religious person, but this song both makes me cry and brings me comfort at the same time.

     
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    I was just thinking about posting a song in her remembrance; we live on different continents and most of our contact is through facebook. I thought I might post something that would help/support/let him know he's not alone.
     
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    The last part of your sentence is all he needs.

    Believe the other posters about associating a song with her death, trust me, I know.

    Blake Shelton's "The Baby" was playing when I was taking my Mom to one of her last chemo appointments.. We both cried as we listened to it, and to this day I lose it if I hear that song.. Not a fond memory.

     
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    thanks everyone, I think maybe I will do as many of you have advised, and NOT try to pick a song. There will be time enough for music in the future.
     
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    At the service they usually ask what choice of music you want and if you don't make a request I think it often defaults to Amazing Grace.

    And that's a hard one to get out of your head.
     
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