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Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by soulgeezer, May 16, 2018.
Relating to this far too much.
I can count my good decisions on two fingers.
Hopefully I’ll make one more good one before I run out of time.
Theoretically. However the mind does it's own thing. Easier to train a pack of wild hyenas to become faithful pets.
"You are 100% in control of whether you feel humiliated or not" is much better sentence structure.
(Loser ! )
Oh - I just peed on my shoes...nevermind. Isn't the first time... (Eeyore voice)
Are you married? If so, then it's already too late!
Couldn't agree more with you on that, but humiliation gets easier to deal with all the time as I become a crotchety old fart. I just everyone to go f*** themselves and I feel great.
Not any more.
Marriage #2, of 3 was my second good decision.
Picking up a guitar (and trying to figure it out) 51 years ago was the first.
I used to hang on to my stash of humiliations. Them drag them out and pore over them like a miser with something precious.
Now I'm older and they're all behind me. Once you've had kids and they have pooed, puked and whatever on you there's not much can offer further humiliations.
They are not random at all.
We are told when to humiliate you.
So, there's a clipboard with a schedule on it somewhere?
Better get on the bus.
I d stick w the series of humiliations. Parallel humiliations are even worse.
I think humble and humiliation are related. It is common to respect and like the humble man and to also see humiliation as a pretty severe tumbling down.... To become humble..... you get the idea...
My experience has been climbing and getting better and doing well and having success and then there is a 'correction' an 'adjustment' and I'm forced to face the more fundamental truths of life. When a particularly difficult set of circumstances and truths and realities become apparent to me... instead of just 'feeling' the hurt of becoming humble, I try to see it for what it is and see the truth of it.
Ex. You perform a task or project in the workplace full of good intention and within the bounds of acceptability only to find that by doing it, it cause a few people distress because it upsets a set of circumstances they were used to and liked. They rebuke you and you can see the upset in their words and faces and it is difficult. You step back and try to understand their 'take' and while you could be defensive or be mad or whatever, you just kind of accept it and learn from it... more data for future actions...
The more experiences I have, the less random the humiliation becomes. I can even predict when I will choose an action that will get a result that will result in rebuke or humiliation. Sometimes I sidestep them now... other times, it is like the movie Tin Cup.... or the old story of the frog and the scorpion.... you choose not to change your response, you choose to accept it as what you do, who you are and who they are... effectively discovering peace even within conflict.
I need not the help of others, friend or foe to secure humiliation. My own enterprise is such that I can gather it alone like the shepherd gathers his flock at the end of the day.
Breathe & allow things to pass?
My brother has a kidney stone..... this is exactly what his doctor told him last week <grin>
Almost perfect. The 'logic' phrase makes it seem that the only way to control your emotions is to not have them.
Why would you be embarrassed by that? Oh wait, the angle of the arc figured from point of impact indicating point of origin would be? Okay, I see, never mind.
Either one is the Alpha Male or not .
This problem stems from our unwillingness to understand that our actions have consequences. Others react to us. We react to them. Sometimes it's better to simply not react. Spiritual karma may or not be real but the bad karma we bring on ourselves is all too real. I need a periodic reminder of this. Reminding me to watch my karma is one of those things my wife is pretty good at.
Humility is for losers. Everyone is talking about how great I am, I'm not saying it's true, but everyone is talking.