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Is anybody else in recovery or clean and sober?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Suicideking, Feb 26, 2011.

  1. w3stie

    w3stie Poster Extraordinaire

    Apr 19, 2010
    Hi Downsman. That's tough, but I found true friends will stay, the ones that disappear were not true. Most of our friends were not heavy drinkers anyway so it just wasn't an issue for them that I wasn't drinking. One couple just stopped responding to phone calls, invitations Xmas cards etc. I made my decision, and they made theirs.

  2. william tele

    william tele Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

    Nov 7, 2009
    Kansas City, MO
    I must admit I drink more Busch N/A than alkie beer. Especially in the summer. I love being able to pound down 2-3 N/A's and avoid the buzz...

  3. HotRodSteve

    HotRodSteve Friend of Leo's

    Sep 24, 2013
    The Hudson Valley
    A powerful documentary about a young man that fell into total alcoholism. I've known alot of heavy drinkers, problem drinkers and a few alcoholics but I never knew it could get this bad.


  4. w3stie

    w3stie Poster Extraordinaire

    Apr 19, 2010
    Joe Walsh talks about recovery.


  5. gibsonjunkie

    gibsonjunkie Tele-Afflicted

    Jan 12, 2006
    Bloomfield, Connecticut
    My wife fell off the wagon pretty hard and wound up in the emergency room a couple weeks ago. She fell and sprained her ankle real bad, but mostly it was because she was out of her freakin' mind and I called the cops. Her blood alcohol was .426 and she was a mess. I think it scared her a lot - she just started an outpatient rehab program. Hope it works this time. I'm about done with the drama.
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  6. Greenmachine

    Greenmachine Tele-Holic

    Nov 28, 2011
    New Jersey
    Gibsonjunkie, consider Al-Anon meetings if you haven't already. They're for family members of alcoholics (and addicts, in principle). I've heard it really helps.
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  7. gibsonjunkie

    gibsonjunkie Tele-Afflicted

    Jan 12, 2006
    Bloomfield, Connecticut
    I've been to a few but haven't found a group I'm comfortable with yet. I attend some AA meetings with my wife. Those meetings are real good for me, too.
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  8. ermac68

    ermac68 Tele-Meister Gold Supporter

    May 2, 2012
    Huntington Beach
    Just celebrated 30 years of continuous sobriety March 17th. I didn't know I got it sober on St Patty's day until it came time to pick up my first year chip. I have three buddies whose birthdays fall in march and we all meet up to celebrate at our old home group on birthday night. I am so blessed to have been loved and mentored by the members of that group that I have gone back every year to say thank you and show the younger members that it can be done, one day at a time.

  9. w3stie

    w3stie Poster Extraordinaire

    Apr 19, 2010
    Congratulations ermac68, what a milestone! A life lived sober is real life.
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  10. spellcaster

    spellcaster Tele-Meister

    Sep 8, 2009
    Duncan, B.C.
    I'm celebrating 13 years today. Recovery rocks!
    mivsy, ermac68, oldgofaster and 8 others like this.

  11. Hexabuzz

    Hexabuzz Friend of Leo's

    Dec 13, 2014
    Northeast PA
    Fantastic! Congrats, and many, many more anniversaries!
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  12. soulman969

    soulman969 Telefied Ad Free Member

    Mar 20, 2011
    Englewood, CO
    Sober yes, for about 6 years now, but I prefer to remain a little on the nasty side in a soft porn kinda way so uh clean.....not exactly. ;) :D
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  13. Sparky2

    Sparky2 Tele-Afflicted

    Apr 15, 2017
    Harvest, Alabama
    I'm a regular casual drinker (just beer anymore), but I don't frequent bars and clubs unless my band has a gig there.

    My wife is 18 months clean and sober, and I'm really proud of her.
    She had a back injury some time ago that set her into a many-years-long spiral of doctors, pills, more doctors, more pills, and then finally hopeless addiction. Pick a pill, pain pills, anti-depressants, sleeping pills, she was addicted to them all.

    Alcohol wasn't her main thing, but it gave her something whenever she ran out of pills.

    Finally, given a choice between certain death and an uncertain life, she chose life.

    We got her into detox, and then a long stretch at rehab.
    She came out, and we fired all her doctors.
    They were all gleefully collecting the insurance money and bankrolling the pharmaceutical industry, the whole while watching this good woman become a stumbling, bumbling, nearly-suicidal addict.
    We fired them with prejudice, and now she has just our family doctor, who understands addictions and who helps her to stay inside her left and right limits.

    She graduated from fearfully attending AA meetings to finally (lately) actually chairing meetings, and sponsoring other girls, and helping out many other addicts and alcoholics in our community.

    I am so proud of her, and I support her in every way I can.

    And I'm proud of all of you who are working the 12 Steps, and who find a way to get up each day and avoid the drink and the drugs.

    I salute you.

  14. Endless Mike

    Endless Mike Friend of Leo's

    Nov 2, 2016
    Arlington, Texas
    Boy, this really enters a gray are as far as anonymity goes...

  15. Sparky2

    Sparky2 Tele-Afflicted

    Apr 15, 2017
    Harvest, Alabama
    As regards this forum, or as regards the tenants of AA?

  16. Endless Mike

    Endless Mike Friend of Leo's

    Nov 2, 2016
    Arlington, Texas
    As regards the tenets of A.A. But keep in mind it is *very* gray. I think it could be easily, and rightly argued that it isn't violating the tradition of anonymity at the level of press, radio and film. And many these days say that internet is included in that tradition.

    For me, I wouldn't bring it up on a forum such as this, but that's just me. Others can do what they choose. That's between them and their sponsor.

  17. Sparky2

    Sparky2 Tele-Afflicted

    Apr 15, 2017
    Harvest, Alabama
    I get what you are saying, Mike, but I don't think that anybody here is revealing things that they heard in AA meetings about somebody else, but rather are sharing their own stories of success and failure.

    I regularly attend Al Anon meetings, and would never in a million years share a story about any of the gals (and few guys) I meet there.

    My sharing my wife's story is a celebration, and I do so with her encouragement and approval.

    And to be fair, my name isn't posted here, and nor is my wife's name or her regular AA group name.

    Mike, if you shared any of your story with us, in an effort to encourage others to follow your lead, that would be a good thing, and it wouldn't have anything to do with AA.
    It would be between you and your brothers and sisters on this web forum.

    Just thinking out loud, sir.

  18. telemnemonics

    telemnemonics Doctor of Teleocity

    Mar 2, 2010
    Sometimes anonymity gets mixed up and folks think the 12 step programs are like secret societies!
    Personal anonymity at the level of press radio and films is a little different now with the internet and especially social media. Can get messy at times.
    But here, if we don't use our (or anyone else's) full name, we aren't breaking anyone's anonymity. Helps if we leave out the fellowship we're in, so we don't act as representatives. But if readers don't know our identities, we're pretty anonymous.
    If we have particularly abrasive personalities and get into frequent angry rants about tonewood or lacquer or CS prices, we might tarnish the rep of a particular program we attend. Since I'm a pretty nasty character I try to leave the name of the program out of my posts.

    Recovery does rock!
    Plenty of pain thrown in as well, especially if we manage to grow old in recovery...

    My anniversary is in May, and quite a few friends are celebrating this spring, including a 2 year last night, a 2 year this Wednesday, a 13 year May 10, my 19 year actual date is May 13, another friend 3 years on the 14th, then another friend who happens to be married to the woman who celebrated two years last night, will also celebrate his 2 years on May 24.

    Not than anyone should personally care about these unnamed strangers, but most of them should realistically be dead, so it's pretty cool.

    This old thread might just help a struggling musician find their way out of a hole, so some personal stories are worth sharing, IMO.
    One of the things I struggled with at first was trying to imagine how in hell I'd ever have fun again.
    I now know hundreds of interesting people, rode hard and put away wet.
    We do OK and have plenty to laugh about.
    Last edited: Apr 25, 2017
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  19. pdcorlis

    pdcorlis Tele-Meister

    28 years of sobriety here - I figure it's my responsibility to control my anonymity and I leave it to others to control theirs. I got sick and tired of waking up sick and tired. AA saved my life and gave me a life worth living - one day at a time.

    If you think you have a problem with alcohol you probably do. I wish you well and hope we see you trudging the happy road of destiny.
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  20. oldgofaster

    oldgofaster Tele-Meister Silver Supporter

    Dec 28, 2010
    Sober 16 years as of last month. BEST decision ever.

    I've found that drinkers tend to hang with drinkers who drink(get drunk) at the same rate/pace/frequency.
    Once you quit, you might not be too popular with the old drinking gang, but it was worth it to me.

    Good luck and prayers to those ready to kick the habit, and those making it through each day!!!

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