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  1. blowtorch

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    IME, sometimes people take offense at these. They view it as a way one refers to an "old person", and they do not like to think of themselves as belonging to the old people group.

    Perhaps it's best to just not make eye contact, and not say anything :)
     
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    I use it for my closest friends. When I'm being condescending to someone, I use "dude."

    Dude, did not see the lineup that you just cut in front of?
    Dude, that haircut sure says something.
    Dude, shut the hell up.
     
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    Not saying sir or ma'am got you rapped in the back of the head by my no nonsense mother.
    Not opening a door for a woman or getting on an elevator before a woman also earned some negitive renforcement. But it also led to a woman calling me a pervert in New York city. Thanks Mom, you'll always be my buddy...
     
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    If followed by, “can you spare a dime?” it’s not condescending.
     
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    Is it a regional thing? I hear Buddy, Bud, Dude, Guy, Chief, Hoss, etc all the time. None of it seems condescending.
    I visited a Customers Pipeline pump station in Louisiana last week and I was "partner" for two days.
    I guess for me it is all about the tone and what that tone implies.
     
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    Young guys call me buddy, chief, boss, sir, etc
    It’s cool with me.
    I’m older, large-ish, and not quick.
    They don’t mean any disrespect, I don’t think.
    I don’t get disrespected much.
    When I do get disrespected, I usually get that straightened out quickly.
     
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    I agree that "buddy" is shorthand for a-hole a lot of the times if its a complete stranger addressing you that way. It doesn't really bother me since they are sort of pulling their punch by toning down the name from what they really mean.

    I do love it though when a lady, usually a waitress or shopkeeper, addresses me as "hon." Its usually older women saying it in a kind way with no sexual connotation what so ever.

    Again, like others have said, its all in the tone and context.
     
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    the only term that i'm somewhat touchy about is "brother". men around here, in my socio-economic strata, us this term. and it does not bother me at all. any man who has lived a life something like mine can call me brother: military, prison guard, construction, farming, factories, law enforcement. and they need to be around 20 years of my age. the fact is, not having many close friends, I welcome "brotherhood". it feels less lonely.

    but a nineteen year old calling me "brother" is not welcome. he hasn't been there, yet. they don't mean disrespect, they just ain't qualified.
     
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    When I lived in Canada, if someone couldn’t remember someone’s name he’d be, for example Drummer Buddy, or Singer Honey, for females.
    Speaking of Newfies, there was a touring comedy musical act called Buddy Washisname & The Other Fellers.
     
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    ...but I don't generally get offended by use of "buddy". why? cause I know that I actually look like a "buddy'. and around here, someone calling you "buddy" usually has a friendly connotation.
     
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    Sorry to sidetrack, brookdalebill, but that's an interesting guitar in your avatar.
    Did you put that together? It looks cool.
    Back on track, it's all about how it is said and who's saying it.
    If I don't know someone's name I call them "man", like "Thanks, man". Sometimes even if they're women.
     
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    I don't care what you call me as long I get to mutter F*** You, A****** under my breath.
     
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    I think I'd rather be called "buddy" than "friendo."

    friendo.jpg
     
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    dbl post
     
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    Generally speaking: No.

    Like you've mentioned tone, context, situation, etc, are the key.

    Most people use it like other people say "Dude", "Man", "Brother", "My Friend", "Bo", etc."

    "Don't sweat it buddy."
     
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    It’s my old workhorse part-o-caster.
    I’ve had it for roughly 35 years.
    It’s been a work in progress the entire time.
    It has been through a lot with me, but sounds great!
    Bill Giebitz made the one piece light ash body, and Philip Kubicki made the neck.
    It’s had tons of mods over the years.
    It’s not a thin-line, the F hole is just countersunk, for looks.
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    Really I think it's likely more me, than the people using it.


    It's a term I used with my sons, when they were very young. My thought-process was to help bond us, and inspire confidence in them that we are all on the same team. I figured that they looked at me sort of in a somewhat fearful awe, as their father. Not that I parented in a fear-inspiring way. I dunno. I was often in ways afraid of my dad, when I was little. So I wanted to help them avoid that, and using that term was a small part of that.

    So, when someone uses it with me, I guess I assume that THEY are assuming that I look up to them in some kind of possibly fearful awe. Which AIN'T NEVER the case

    Also, it's a term a person is likely to use with say, a learning-disabled adult.

    I'm probably way off base with that. But that's my thought process, in an instant, when I hear "buddy"
     
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    You have a lot to learn about screwing up your life...

    :) just kidding

    Like you, I TRY to remember that that there is a big difference between being ignorant vs. being stupid.
    We ALL were rookies and had to learn things at one time.

    The tone is what determines it for me...I use Chief or Bubba when I haven't had the opportunity to learn someone's name yet...but its said in a lighthearted tone.

    If I think someone is stupid, I make it pretty obvious.
     
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    Since I call both my male dogs buddy (and my cat), I don't think it's condescending.
    Seriously though, it is all about the tone and context, so as long as those are in line, doesn't bother me.
     
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