So I joined a band as a singer and rhythm guitar player. I came from an acoustic guitar background. I had been in another band for a short time (less than a year) until the lead guitar player and the drummer had a falling out and the band was no more. I'm practicing with the band and realize they practice really really loud! My attempts to get us to practice not so loud in a room that is the size of a one car garage didn't work. I was told that this is the quietest they've ever practiced. So I got ear plugs Etymotic ER20, Alpine MusicSafe Pro, Etymotic ER20XS, and most recently Westone TRU trying to find some ear plugs that make it possible to hear my guitar and vocals through the monitors. I can barely hear my guitar and the vocals are never clear enough. To get my vocals loud enough with the ear plugs the mic starts feedbacking. So I invest in an in-ear system, which is not cheap. This seems to be the best solution. I get to protect my hearing while also hearing everyone clearly. I am stationed in the middle in front of the drummer so ear protection is a must. I am not sure why the rest of the band thinks it is ok to not have hearing protection, but it is not my job to police people's choices. For whatever reason the lead guitar player has deemed my setup "complicated" and has convinced the bass player that somehow my setup is "complicated". It is annoying. During one practice I told them to stop saying it is complicated because it is just one extra cable to the board. We have a gig coming up with the venue has their own PA and the first thing the lead guitar player says is, oh you may not be able to use your in-ears. Why the f--k is that the first thing that popped in to your head? Anyway, the bass player is the one who gets us gigs and he is going to checkout the board and ask any questions. I let him know that I wanted to make sure there was an open aux for my in-ears. The response was, "We won't have much time to mix them, do you think it [in-ears] is practical for this gig?" WTF, one extra cable and I do my own aux mixing, I'm the only one hearing this mix. What in the world is impractical about that? I let the band know that in-ears are a requirement for me so that I can protect my hearing and to hear myself clearly. I'm exhausted by them telling me my setup is complicated and me having to explain why it isn't complicated. I do not understand why they keep making a big deal out of something that doesn't really affect them. I plug one cable into the board, twist knobs to mix the inputs and done. This "it's so complicated" has happened so often that I am ready to quit this band, because they are causing me anxiety which makes going to practice and gigs not fun. Am I crazy for wanting to protect my hearing and also wanting to hear myself clearly while playing guitar and singing?