a certain form of exhaustion...

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  1. thunderbyrd

    thunderbyrd Poster Extraordinaire Silver Supporter

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    my posts about my ongoing problems with my aging parents might be getting monotonous. please ignore it if seems that way - but I find it useful to look back at these posts to remember how it is at various points in the journey.

    so. yesterday, my father had his 1st surgery for osteomiltis (spelling whatever) which is an infection in his spine. my wife and I got to the hospital at 5 AM. the surgery was to be at 7:30 am. they took him into pre op at 11 AM. they began the surgery at 3 PM. at 9 pm they brought him back to his room. he was knocked out. we left at 930 pm.

    today I was utterly wiped out all day long. back for another on Friday.
     
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    That's tough, t-byrd......hope he's doing better today.
     
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    Torren61 Tele-Afflicted

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    Hard on him, hard on her, hard on you, hard on everyone. I feel for you.
     
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    bftfender Friend of Leo's

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    Its understandable..i talk about my wife's injury a whole lot..its just so much a part of our lives..its now every day..every hour thing..you are just relating & its cool..hang in there the best you can ! its not easy taking care of someone 24/7
     
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    Difficult situation to be in.
     
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    Lotta long days. Hang in there and remember to take care of yourself a bit, best ya can.
     
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    Some days leave you with nothing left to give...

    I've had a few I wouldn't wish on anyone.

    I hope you and your family get through this as well as you can...
     
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    RoscoeElegante Friend of Leo's

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    I feel for you, thunderbyrd. Been through this myself, with both parents. With my mom's situation, though long ago now, it was a huge stress test on everyone involved. Some toxic things flew through the family that did lasting damage, 'cause quite a few family members were ill-prepared to cope and lashed out--at themselves, too.

    So make sure you get pre-set time for yourself--to daydream, nap, watch/do something mindless, play some music, whatever works for you. This kind of stress can wreck ya if you don't make a routine of self-protection that you have to look forward to, to get through the awful, long moments.

    Likewise, try to carve out time for just you and your wife. Whether that's talking about the worry and finding strength together in that kind of sharing or NOT talking about to have a little shared emotional break from it, etc., you two can decide as needed. Relationships can fray just when you most need them otherwise. Some hospitals make counselors available to families coping with loved ones' illnesses/crises, too, so you may wanna ask about that.

    Best wishes.
     
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    I am with you, I spent a lot of time at the hospital with my parents in the last year, it’s brutal.
    Think how hard it would be for them without you.
    Hang in there, they changed your diapers
     
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    been there, done that. doctors bite buttox. at 68+, too many tales to tell there. hang in bro'
     
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    I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. It sometimes feels like there's no air to breath waiting on loved ones.
     
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    T-bird,
    It’s exhausting. A lot of us have been there. Hang in there, buddy.

    When I was my mom’s guardian I lost a lot of sleep (among other things). The problems seemed infinite. But they weren’t.
     
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    Rest as much as possible and eat well. Those are weapons in this fight. Take care of yourself too.
     
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  14. Flakey

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    I've walked that path with my first wife when I was in my late 30s/early 40s for 4 years with the last 2 years at the Mayo. (I should have bought a time share in Rochester I was there so often.). Take breaks when you can, sleep when you are suppose to sleep and eat when you are suppose to eat and eat quality meals, not grab and go junk. You got this.
     
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  15. thunderbyrd

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    thanks to all for kind words.
     
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    As a few have mentioned, take care to make some time for yourself through these difficult times.
     
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