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Old September 4th, 2013, 11:41 AM   #1 (permalink)
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song for someone who lost his mother?

my nephew's mother is dying today. She slipped in the shower, cracked her head so bad that nothing can be done to save her. They are just waiting.

I have spoken with him and tried to say anything useful, but I can't, 'cuz there is nothing that will help.

I would like to play him a piece of music, something appropriate. But my mind is just a blank right now. Maybe in a week I'll think of all the right songs, but right now I am open to suggestions from you all.

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Old September 4th, 2013, 11:53 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I wish i knew a song to tell you. I'm really sorry to hear that, and I'll be praying for your family.
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Old September 4th, 2013, 11:53 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I think nothing you could say or play would be of help at a time like this.
Just be there and let him tell you what he needs.

Tragic.
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Old September 4th, 2013, 12:03 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Keep quiet .A favorite piece of music can become a nightmare when associated with a death .Believe me I know sadly .
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Old September 4th, 2013, 12:25 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Old September 4th, 2013, 12:25 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Very sad to hear, my condolences. I agree that you should let your nephew decide and voice what he needs at this point. Just being there and ready is the most important thing you can do now.

I tell you what though, I am going to install some slip guards in my mom's tub/shower today. That's just scary and all too easy to happen.
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This one is very appropriate:

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Old September 4th, 2013, 12:46 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I once wrote a song after I lost someone. Being a songwriter, it was good for me but I would have to agree with what was said above. Hearing a song, even years later, can snap you right back into a moment that you may not want to be in. I gave this song to my original band and we inserted it into our set. I found myself singing the song for years because people wanted to hear it. Some nights it was a bit hard to take.
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Keep quiet. A favorite piece of music can become a nightmare when associated with a death.
I think this might be great wisdom and fine advice.
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- Wish your family well through all


If they would have played 'over the rainbow' during my mom's funeral, I would have
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If he's just lost his mother I doubt he really wants music recommendations.
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i really like 'Farther Along' .. the Byrds did a wonderful version.
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Here's two, Oliver wrote these about his Mom.



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this is what I go to in these kinds of situations.

So sorry to hear the news...

I have no idea what this song is about, but it touches something... condolences, acceptance, sadness, grief...
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I'm not a religious person, but this song both makes me cry and brings me comfort at the same time.

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If he's just lost his mother I doubt he really wants music recommendations.
I was just thinking about posting a song in her remembrance; we live on different continents and most of our contact is through facebook. I thought I might post something that would help/support/let him know he's not alone.
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I was just thinking about posting a song in her remembrance; we live on different continents and most of our contact is through facebook. I thought I might post something that would help/support/let him know he's not alone.
The last part of your sentence is all he needs.

Believe the other posters about associating a song with her death, trust me, I know.

Blake Shelton's "The Baby" was playing when I was taking my Mom to one of her last chemo appointments.. We both cried as we listened to it, and to this day I lose it if I hear that song.. Not a fond memory.

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thanks everyone, I think maybe I will do as many of you have advised, and NOT try to pick a song. There will be time enough for music in the future.
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Old September 4th, 2013, 04:21 PM   #20 (permalink)
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At the service they usually ask what choice of music you want and if you don't make a request I think it often defaults to Amazing Grace.

And that's a hard one to get out of your head.
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