Bandmates are WHIPPED.

[gshep92]

I'm in my early 20's and three of my bandages are pushing 30. All of them are married/in a serious relationship. Their wives make choosing practice times such a pain in the ass. Guys need to man up and get their priorities straight! Sorry just kind of venting here... It's definitely hurting the band though.

[J-man]

Originally Posted by gshep92

I'm in my early 20's and three of my bandages are pushing 30.

Gross.

[max_twang]

Originally Posted by gshep92

I'm in my early 20's and three of my bandages are pushing 30. All of them are married/in a serious relationship. Their wives make choosing practice times such a pain in the ass. Guys need to man up and get their priorities straight! Sorry just kind of venting here... It's definitely hurting the band though.

One day that will be you

[trev333]

here's a song for you..... maybe the writer of this song thought the same thing back in the 70's... a bit of a hit on local Oz radio too...

I'm sure many of us have been there at one point in their lives.. bands or not..

[LGOberean]

Originally Posted by gshep92

I'm in my early 20's and three of my bandages are pushing 30. All of them are married/in a serious relationship. Their wives make choosing practice times such a pain in the ass. Guys need to man up and get their priorities straight! Sorry just kind of venting here... It's definitely hurting the band though.

If they are married and are taking their mate's feelings into consideration when it comes to time spent together, it sounds to me like they do have their priorities straight. It's called "married couples,"' not "married singles." Maybe they shouldn't be in a band right now, if it's too much of a conflict. They're not married to the band as well, or at least they shouldn't be.

[Westerly Sunn]

Yeah, everybody's situation is different.

Sounds like maybe you just need a different situation.

[evanrw]

I'm in a similar situation. I'm 25 and by bandmates are 10-15 years my senior. The thing I've had to realise is, although we all love the music we make and playing together, everyone will face challenges and have experiences in life at different rates and at different times. Age and relationship status doesn't necessarily dictate relative availability.

[hannigan]

I feel ya man, I am in my 50 s and this guy pushing 60 wants to play guitar with me.

All those Gerital and pee breaks are really eating into practice.

[A.B.Negative]

Sounds to me like your priorities aren't quite the same as their priorities. But they're still priorities.

[elicross]

The obvious solution to the OP's problem: Get a girlfriend.

[Memphis Hawk]

A milf that can hangout with your bandmates' wives.

[blargfromspace]

I just turned 30 and my band mates are in their 50s. No problems. Maybe your band mates just aren't that into it.

You guys gigging or just messing about?

[imsilly]

After being officially credited by all my friends as, "the worst boyfriend ever" I have to agree with the OP, so many whipped men out there.

I think the fundamental error most men make is believing just because they found a woman who'd put up with them and occasionally let them have sex with them that in someway that makes that woman special.

When in reality if said woman just got up and left one day you would find one just as good or better without much problem. The fact is there are over 3 billion women in the world. That strikes me as a very large pool to pick from.

P.S.

Also some people are just lazy and stupid and use the excuse that the girlfriend/wife doesn't want them to do something to get out of doing it.

[DrumBob]

Your priorities are very different than theirs. Maybe time to move on.

Musicians need to get all this stuff straight with women before they get involved in serious relationships. I'm in a band, you have a problem with that? No? Good.

That's what I did 34 years ago.

[bowman]

Your current problem with bandmates' relationships is the #1 cause of band troubles in the entire history of bands - it has been ever since Oog and Ock first used sticks to bang on a log in 20,000 BC. Wish I had some advice, but there is none that's any good - every one of these situations is the-same-but-different.

[P Thought]

Originally Posted by J-man

Gross.

Thass funny!

[earoach]

Wow! Why would a bunch of grown men hang out with a 20 something kid? That's what is really gross! A 20 year old kid has no idea about real music OR commitments!
hehehehe

[uriah1]

- Opposite...I am in 50+.empty nester..I would practice multiple times a week full band.....and drummer is 20+.....he never practices much ..wants to party with buds or girlfriend wants him home.. most drummers don't think they need to practice....we do work around it..
he is starting to mellow a tad

other members, still have kids at home ...work around it

[Scotland]

Originally Posted by max_twang

One day that will be you

Yeah, one day very soon !!

[63dot]

Originally Posted by bowman

Your current problem with bandmates' relationships is the #1 cause of band troubles in the entire history of bands - it has been ever since Oog and Ock first used sticks to bang on a log in 20,000 BC. Wish I had some advice, but there is none that's any good - every one of these situations is the-same-but-different.

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