Mother yell at kid for playing guitar

[Jakedog]

I wish I could say this sounds scripted, but sadly, it does not.

My father was extremely encouraging with me about music. My mother, was not so much. But she wasn't anything close to this bad.

I had a friend I went to school with though, who went through this sort of thing regularly. I often had to sit through it with him. Can you say uncomfortable? The kid was an absolutely amazing bass player, but his dad could not see that being useful for anything. I heard this kid get berated to hell and back, and called every name in the book, on a regular basis. Because he liked to play music, and wanted to have a career in it.

His father once sold his gear. His father twice destroyed his gear. Smashed it to pieces. It got to the point, where he kept all of his music stuff at my house, and just spent all of his time there. The police would routinely show up to my house then, having been called by his father. His dad would tell them we were drinking, or doing drugs, or selling drugs, or all kinds of things, and send them over to "break up the party". We were never doing any of those things. Eventually they caught on.

He ended up getting a half scholarship to Berklee, but couldn't pay for the rest of it, and his father flatly refused to contribute any tuition money to a music school. He joined the Air Force, just to get away from his old man, and ended up playing bass in Tops In Blue, all over the world, for years. I lost track of him a long time ago, but I hope he's still playing. He was an amazing talent, who succeeded in music in spite of parental support that at times was far worse than anything in this video.

[brookdalebill]

I'd get "Put that thing up and go to bed!"
But that is as harsh as it got.
Both my parents were incredibly supportive of my "career path".
Now I'm mildly successful!

[notdave]

Originally Posted by Jakedog

I wish I could say this sounds scripted, but sadly, it does not.

My father was extremely encouraging with me about music. My mother, was not so much. But she wasn't anything close to this bad.

I had a friend I went to school with though, who went through this sort of thing regularly. I often had to sit through it with him. Can you say uncomfortable? The kid was an absolutely amazing bass player, but his dad could not see that being useful for anything. I heard this kid get berated to hell and back, and called every name in the book, on a regular basis. Because he liked to play music, and wanted to have a career in it.

His father once sold his gear. His father twice destroyed his gear. Smashed it to pieces. It got to the point, where he kept all of his music stuff at my house, and just spent all of his time there. The police would routinely show up to my house then, having been called by his father. His dad would tell them we were drinking, or doing drugs, or selling drugs, or all kinds of things, and send them over to "break up the party". We were never doing any of those things. Eventually they caught on.

He ended up getting a half scholarship to Berklee, but couldn't pay for the rest of it, and his father flatly refused to contribute any tuition money to a music school. He joined the Air Force, just to get away from his old man, and ended up playing bass in Tops In Blue, all over the world, for years. I lost track of him a long time ago, but I hope he's still playing. He was an amazing talent, who succeeded in music in spite of parental support that at times was far worse than anything in this video.

That's one of the saddest things I've read on here.

Way to stifle your children's' dreams....

[dwlb]

Whether it's scripted or not, it's incredibly sad. I'm very fortunate that both of my parents were very supportive of my musical ambition, and the artistic ambitions of my brothers as well. It helped that they were both musicians themselves, I guess. They both came out to as many of my shows as they could. I was playing music with my father 2 days before he died. As partial response to the mother in the video, asking how the guitar playing is going to benefit her son or society...I can't speak for society, but I probably wouldn't have the career or life I have now if I wasn't a musician.

[JBennett]

Doesn't sound staged at all. Watch CSI or "hart of dixie" to see how people sound when they want to be utterly unconvincing with their words.

[Wailin' Tele]

I watched some of his other vids, the kid is good and dedicated to his craft. Good for him.
My dad wanted me to be a doctor. Well the world needed guitar players too.

[Larry F]

My 3-piece band in high school played a lot of gigs in the late 60s. That made a big impression in our parents. We also practiced nearly every day. Without the parents ever saying anything, we nonetheless would rotate our practices among all three houses, usually a few weeks at a time. We had dinner with the drummer's parents last summer, and his father said we were so loud, he thought we must have been driving the nails out of the walls in the house.

[drb1346]

My mom was great when I was learning to play. . . .great Lady!!!

[Tdub]

Staged, fake, lame, etc.

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[WaylonFan76]

My dad told me after I left home that they kinda missed the guitar playing coming from my room... I guess they just missed me. This vid however reminds me of a lot of "What do you plan on doing with your life ?" lectures I used to get way back when...

[GregB]

Well, my mom was my first piano teacher. Her 3 brothers are all professional musicians. One of them went to Julliard. Another has played with many great jazz bands and was the drummer in the Disneyland band for 16 years. The third has played drums with Ray Charles and Johnny Mathis. Their father, my grandfather, had his own jazz band: "The Johnny Whited Big Band".

Here's Grandpa at the piano with two of his sons in the band. One on drums the other on Lead saxophone.


I remember visiting Grandpa John's brother Arnold in Ohio when I was 9 years old. As we pulled into the driveway I remember thinking "Wow, they've really got the stereo playing loudly." It wasn't the stereo. It was great uncle Arn and HIS two sons playing jazz in a piano, bass, drum trio.

So no, we never had the "What are you doing with your life as a musician" talk.

[imsilly]

Wow, what a psycho! Reminds me a lot of people I know. Sometimes I wonder if people like that really think they are the normal ones. I hope if I ever had kids I'd have the good grace to let them do what makes them feel happy without ****ting all over it.

[jguitarman]

My parents were supportive but did sometimes tell me to turn it down. I once had a cracked window in my bedroom right above where my amp sat. Ooops. The sad/funny thing is that I have two youngens at home and just last night my wife steps into my music room on behalf of my teenage daughter to ask me to turn it down. I never play loud in the house. If the kids can even hear it, it's too loud. There seems to be no hope for my daughter but my son is starting to pick up the guitar.

[urizen]

I wonder who's paying for his equipment?

That said, it doesn't sound scripted to me---he probably kept his mouth shut so she wouldn't get worse, or hit him, or start breaking whatever she could reach; I lived with someone like that (actually, much worse, at least on her downswings) 'til I was 18 and could get out. From 12 to 18, I resented my dad for not divorcing her.

One of the last things she said to me (while dying in hospice) was, " I'm going to miss you." I had no response to that, but I did learn that a parenting style like that guarantees there'll be no grief or tears at the funeral.

[Daddy Hojo]

What she really meant: "Why can't you be cooking getting a real job cooking meth like everyone from MY generation..."

[dented]

Wow, all I expected was Cheech and Chong to bust down after she went out the door.....

duh duh duh, duh duh duh, duh duh duhhhhhhhhhhhh


I thought it sounded real. Whatever. Gotta make some bucks and move out Mike.

[Rufus]

Sounded genuine to me.

I guess Mom would rather that Mike be out gang banging, smoking crack and wearing his pants below his @ss.

He's 17 years old and hasn't done anything with his life yet...I guess he's worthless.

"Geez Officer, I have no idea why he was up on that tower with a high powered rifle. We were always encouraging him." - Mom

[Nick JD]

$50 says that kid's older brother is a major loser and Mike's having to deal with his Mum's baggage over it.

Another $20 says he's been physically abused too because he's learned not to talk back. He stays eerily quiet - only people who ever do that are fearful.

[tazzboy]

He's probably afraid that if he back talks here several thing can happen.

1) she can kick him on the street
2) she can turn around sell all his gear behind his back
3) she could smack him a good one.

I could one but you get the point.

[ringodingo]

Wow, she is well spoken. She's obviously thought a lot about this. And she keeps coming back. It's good motivation for when you grow up to move into your own place.

But I imagine that amp is loud. Maybe he could do these experiments in the garage.