Pregnant wife was sick.... ALL NIGHT LONG..

[wierdOne]

So... no doubt some of you know that my wife and I are in the middle of our first pregnancy...

well... if last night was any sign of what's to come...

I... am.... screwed...

I got home from my gig around 11ish, and she said she had just vomited... we both figured morning sickness... it's happened before... about 15 minutes later..... she vomited again, only this time... it was from the other end.... poor little thing... she spent every 30 minutes getting up and vomiting and... #2...

we called her doctor at 3:30, and she told us to keep her hydrated with Gatorade and that she'd call in a prescription when our local pharmacy opened up...

Now... I LOVE living in the country... we're right across the street from her parents... LOTS of land between us and a neighbor.... I can get LOUD....

But at 3:30 this morning I REALLY missed living in a big city.... New Orleans, Chicago, Seattle... ALL of those cities had an all night pharmacy... I know... I used them all...

but living in the armpit of the Gulf Coast... we don't have those amenities.... We do, however, have hurricanes and incest... fair trade......

What? You should see my sister... she's HOT..... you would have married her too.......

Just kidding... she's ugly...

but... still... Being up all night with my wife... I felt sooooo helpless...

Parents.... Sleepless, helpless nights... is this what I have to look forward to when the baby comes? I can only imagine what it's going to be like...

My wife's a grown woman, and at times her pain brought me to tears... for fear of her safety and my unborn baby....

Now that the local pharmacy is open, I have to go pick up her prescription....

[psychetelec]

I hear you, we're under 2 weeks till the big day.

[red57strat]

My wife's pregnancy with our daughter was pretty easy and she slept through the night at less than a month old.

My wife vomited so much when she was pregnant with my son that she ended up in the hospital on an IV! That fixed her up surprisingly quickly.
Don't worry though, she was only that sick for about 5 months!!!

Luckily, she was only in labor with him for about half an hour.

My son didn't sleep through the night until we started feeding him meat!!!

Every pregnancy is different.

[Durtdog]

Originally Posted by wierdOne

well... if last night was any sign of what's to come...

I... am.... screwed...

You have no idea.

[Just-Jim]

I feel for you and your wife. My wife was one of those people that had morning sickness up until the last three months of the pregnancy. I think that is not typical for most people. I almost felt guilty when I would see what she was going through. I told her I would trade places with her if I could, but should new I was not being completely truthful.

[lewis]

My wife had some complications with her last pregnancy.
One morning, 3 a.m. things weren't going well, we looked at each other and said at the same time, "We are never doing this again."
We are blessed with three (one adopted) beautiful daughters.
It's worth all of the trouble but as Lindsey Buckingham would say, "Never Going Back Again".

[Durtdog]

Yes, I feel you and your wife as well. My ex-wife's pregnancy was not pleasant.

Typical, everyday example: Driving harmoniously down the road when suddenly a feral, menacing, voice (about 3 octaves lower than her regular voice) comes from her and snarls, "I gotta have some fried chicken RIGHT NOW." She has a Charlie Manson look in her eye, so I don't argue.

In a panic, I find some place that has fried chicken, buy it, toss it at her and stand back as she ravages a large order of chicken.

Shortly after the feeding, she has violent projectile vomiting in the parking lot for about 10 minutes. She goes to the restroom and cleans up, and we are on our way down the road again, like nothing happened. Just another day of pregnancy.

[wierdOne]

prescription is not ready...

the pain continues.... the doctor says she has a stomach/intestinal virus and there's not much they can do about it...

I'm tired.

God bless coffee.

[brillocaster]

Hey, wierdOne and psychetelec, take a deep breath. It's tough and scary right now and, yeah, you are likely in for a few sleepless nights.

The good news is threefold

A) You're conscientious enough to be concerned about your wife - you would be surprised at how little accomodation or attention some men give their pregnant partners. This will take you a long way.

B) People and babies are remarkably resilient creatures. When things seem their worst, there's a secondary gas tank that will kick in for you.

C) The long nights do not last forever. Some babies take months, some days, but eventually peace reigns supreme. Our first screamed non-stop for three days when we brought him home. I thought I was going to lose my mind. the second was as mellow as a bowl of 'nanner pudding. So, you never know what you're gonna get.

So hang in there guys. And when you feel at wit's end don't be afraid to allow yourself a minute to get your composure. It's better to put the baby down on the floor and count backwards from 60 than to let your blood boil over.

[TDPRI]

It never ends either... our daughter is 21 and a Junior at Texas A&M. Phone rang at 3.36 am this morning. Daughter is in tears. Dad, me and my friends were horsing around and I tripped and broke my nose, I'm on the way to the Hospital right now.

It's Spring Break. She stayed at school to work. She's staying with her Sorority roommate at a friends house. Ok, so they were up late doing who knows what and bang she trips and falls on her face.

5 stitches, some bandages and who knows how many hundreds of dollars later and she calls again at 6 am. To tell us she has to see a nose specialist, too. The good news is she's OK!

Having kids is the best "mess" you'll ever have in your life and believe it or not all the trouble of pregnancy will be replaced by 10 times more trouble but 1000 times more joy.

[TDPRI]

Oh, one word of advice. This is for every TDPer that has a pregnant wife:

In the ninth month of your wife's pregnancy just repeat these two words as an answer to every single comment and question:

Yes dear.

During this month it's just best to be more go along than you've ever been. Even if you have an differing opinion NOW is not the time to share it. Just say "Yes dear. Of course dear."

[rleesa]

Your poor wife has a stomach virus which has been going around - it is really rare for a pregnancy to produce that type of sickness- I have three children- it has some unpleasant moments, but not that bad!

Our whole family has had exactly what you described except for my husband who managed to escape it and had to take care of all of us. Doctor said it is extremely contagious so you are next or maybe you will luck out like my husband.. He mainly helped by going to the store, taking care of things around the house and giving moral support from far far away from us and sleeping in one of the guest rooms.

Hey - I have been taking care of babies and children and pets since 1983 - still suffering with a 15 and 16 year old that are causing me more agony than they did when they were on colic crying binges that lasted days. It's someone elses turn - I have to feel some small satisfaction - sorry - why should I be the only one

[titus]

Having kids is the best "mess" you'll ever have in your life and believe it or not all the trouble of pregnancy will be replaced by 10 times more trouble but 1000 times more joy.

That is the truth.

My wife had a strech of sickness during the pregnancy and still can't eat broccoli. By the end of it we would have to stop and get take out on the way to the restaurant. After all the sleepless nights and wierdness I wouldn't change a thing. Today I'm home with my 5 year old twin girls who recently decided they want to be geologists...! I guess we're going rock hunting.

[pengipete]

My poor wife has serious problems with DVT and has to take Warfarin to prevent further clots. When we were pregnant she had to change to a different medication which meant injecting herself in the stomach everyday.

The poor gal was covered in bruises - a side effect of the medication is you bruise easily - and was bleeding like a stuck pig - another side effect.

Then there were the mood swings, vomitting and the addiction to the most fart producing foods imaginable; it was like living with an extra from Night of the Living Dead. And that was just me - she was worse.

Sadly we lost the baby - we're over that now but tough at the time - so we've got it all to look forward to again the next time and we wouldn't care just as long as we have a happy child.

[Steve G]

Originally Posted by TDPRI

Oh, one word of advice. This is for every TDPer that has a pregnant wife:

In the ninth month of your wife's pregnancy just repeat these two words as an answer to every single comment and question:

Yes dear.

During this month it's just best to be more go along than you've ever been. Even if you have an differing opinion NOW is not the time to share it. Just say "Yes dear. Of course dear."

Wise words.

Dont worry weirdone, everything really will be fine. Sometimes it seems a lot more scary and weird because you're both weary. 10x more pain and 10,000 more joy describes well my first 13 months of fatherhood.

Plus you can soon start saving for one of these-

[wierdOne]

thanks yall...

Strangely enough, we both took today off to attend a funeral of a family member.... but... we never made it, due to her condition... so.... today's been better for her.... she's been sleeping on the couch... not hungry yet though...

anyways... thanks for the kind words... I know it's going to be one wild ride... i just feel like we're slowly climbing the first HUGE hump on a rollercoaster... click, click, click, click, click, click, click...

[Twangmeister]

hurricanes and incest

That's gotta be the best Tom Waits song he never wrote!

Brillocaster hit all the nails on all their heads, as did our Administrator. Nothing in life will test you like parenting, but nothing, not even an original '52 blackguard in pristine condition, can begin to touch the joy and connection to being alive that your children will bring you. That tired cliché, "Someday we'll look back on this and laugh," applies to many of those late nights and disposing of bodily fluids. Wait until you, your wife and the kid(s) are all sick at the same time. Talk about a party! But hey, that's what life's about, and you'll miss it when they're older and have "other things to do." Sounds as though you have plenty of love and compassion for your wife, which will undoubtedly flow to your child. Have fun!

[pengipete]

[quote=wierdOne;1156612]anyways... thanks for the kind words... I know it's going to be one wild ride... i just feel like we're slowly climbing the first HUGE hump on a rollercoaster... click, click, click, click, click, click, click...

I'm going to tell your wife that you just called her a huge hump.

[chuck_zc]

It may be an old cliche but life changes with your first child. Before my oldest was born I could drown puppies(I didn't!!) and it wouldn't bother me, now I can't get through a full episode of Oprah without getting emotional(I'm 6'3",245lbs, not a pretty site).
As for the morning sickness, my wife missed that and passed it on to me. Every morning before I put my cover-alls on at work I had to go to the washroom and throw up

[imwjl]

Originally Posted by TDPRI

It never ends either... our daughter is 21 and a Junior at Texas A&M. Phone rang at 3.36 am this morning. Daughter is in tears. Dad, me and my friends were horsing around and I tripped and broke my nose, I'm on the way to the Hospital right now.

It's Spring Break. She stayed at school to work. She's staying with her Sorority roommate at a friends house. Ok, so they were up late doing who knows what and bang she trips and falls on her face.

5 stitches, some bandages and who knows how many hundreds of dollars later and she calls again at 6 am. To tell us she has to see a nose specialist, too. The good news is she's OK!

Having kids is the best "mess" you'll ever have in your life and believe it or not all the trouble of pregnancy will be replaced by 10 times more trouble but 1000 times more joy.

One of my theories as a father of 3 is nothing tops parenthood as far as getting any revenge you might deserve.

My wife is not a shoe and shopping person, so I also think the words about keeping your daughters from men should also included women when I see the shoes and other forms of baggage he he he....

To the OP: Good luck. It is much work and worry, but I find marriage and parenting a highly underrated concept where I'm still crazy for the same woman 19 years later and in some ways it only all gets better.