Had to say goodbye to Mom Sunday

After 83 years, and a full life, we said goodbye to the Mom who let me have my first guitar lessons 47 years ago when she and Dad couldn't afford it. Bought me my first small guitar as a 2nd grader, went to my recitals, concerts, dances. The one who listened to my screaching rock band in junior high, my even louder (less screachy) one in high school and my Lightfoot/Taylor/Denver acoustic years. The one who prayed by my bedroom door when I was a troubled teen and who went to work so I could go to college. She was a huge factor in my development as a musician.

I did the memorial service. Sang Chris Rice's Come to Jesus (Fly to Jesus) and gave a message. I prepared but asked God to give me the words and He did so.

If you still have your Mom around, why don't you pick up the phone and call her. Tell her you love her and thank her for all she's done for you--the seen and the unseen. I can't do that anymore.

I'm so sorry.

Many thoughts and prayers.

Furr

So sorry for your loss.
Thanks for sharing her with us.

Best with you, and from your words.....she left this place with a good heart to have such a son. I'm still trying to get my life right, and in doing so, make my mom happy as well.

I hope you and your loved ones are well, and that this time and reflection will make you closer. In her memory, live the best life you can.
take care,
and rock and roll.

Thanks for sharing.
Life does go by pretty fast as one gets older.
It makes you want to make things right, mend relationships, etc.
Sorry for your loss.

I'm deeply sorry for your loss, but so glad to hear how much your Mom meant to you.

Tim

Sorry my friend - I lost my mom last August to a car accident. Just think of all the happy times and she'll be with you.

If you still have your Mom around, why don't you pick up the phone and call her. Tell her you love her and thank her for all she's done for you--the seen and the unseen. I can't do that anymore.

I tell my mother I love her every time I see her.

I am very touched by what you wrote about your mother and I am so sorry to hear about your loss. :sad: My thoughts and prayers are with you!

I know how that is man. I brought my mother home to pass away 5 years ago. She had been taking care of herself pretty well but there came a point to where she needed us. She was surrounded by loved ones up untill the moment she died.
My mother in law who had lived with us for 11 years passed away this last September. She got sweeter and frailer everyday, she to was surrronded by loved ones.
In both cases we were prepared, they were prepared and are now in heaven. I have to say Pickalitle, in both cases it was wonderful and difficult at the same time. God Bless you for taking care of your mother.

My condolences and all the best.

So sorry for your loss Pickalittle. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

What I'm wrestling with 2-1/2 weeks after Mom dying is that I found out about Mom being rushed to the hospital in a coma, apparently from a stroke, on Saturday morning, Oct 13, at about 10am. I had 5 services to play, 2 that night, 3 the next morning for our large church. I could have gotten on a plane and gone to her bedside, though she was unconscious as far as we know, and unresponsive. I had no idea she would die that night.
I felt the Lord wanted me to be faithful and play those sets as it heavily depended on the Tele sound for several songs. The team lovingly said to just go if I felt I needed to. I got a call from my brother after I got home from church Saturday night that Mom had just gone to be with Jesus.

The next morning I was in a fog, as I played my parts, some hymn-like, some rock style. I felt the peace of Jesus that I had made the right decision to stay and play for Him, yet now I'm feeling conflicted as to whether my presence would have meant something to her as her spirit left her frail body that night. (My Dad, brother and sister in law had just left for dinner and by the time they got back to the hospital after receiving an emergency call, she was gone).

I guess I am just sharing with you, my brothers in worship, what cost discipleship? What is more noble in the eyes of Christ? To be loyal to our loved ones at death's door and to be there for them, or to be in service to our Lord, instead?

I am sure one day I'll have an answer, perhaps on the other side. My humanity is doubting the decision I made in the spirit now.

But one thing I can share...

Mom died at the very moment I was playing the second worship set at church. It was as if, as she left this world to her eternal peace, Jesus greeted her with a hug and she could hear faintly in the background worship to the Lord, and He said, Claire, that is the sound of your son worhsipping me. I don't know what greater Homecoming gift I could give her.

Brother, please hear some words that come from the heart of someone that -for better or worse- doesn't share your religious beliefs, a self proclaimed agnostic.

First of all, let me offer my deepest sympathy for your loss. I can relate personally, since I lost my father, suddenly, at the age of 66, some years ago. I only managed to get there to close his eyes.

Second, from the thoughts and concerns you shared with us, I have the feeling that you are a truly decent human being, with profound feelings and ideals about his community and fellow man. Let this be your burden and your blessing, because few people today live lives enriched my those high standards. Pain is inevitable, to struggle to be the best you can, is heroism.

Lastly, as you say, your mother was a wonderful person, she lived a full and rich life and made you, in a large part, what you are today. I will not discuss religious concepts, but I can truly say that, as long as you and your family remember and cherish her memory, your mother will be alive for you and the people that loved her. May we all be thus immortal through our children and our deeds.

Abraxa:
Thank you for your integrity, honesty and noble words. I appreciate them very much.

It's much less important to be there for her death than it was to have her in your life, and it sure sounds like you had a rich and rewarding relationship with her.

She knows how strong the bonds of love were and are, I'm pretty sure...

Tim

Folks,
I just got to thinkin' that this is not the proper forum for the above post and I apologize for burdening you with my thoughts. I think I just had a thoughtful moment and felt like sharing it with others. I much appreciate your kind words, from whatever your religious or philosophical points of view. I respect and treasure them all.

Sincerely,
Scott

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

RIP, ma'am.

Sorry for your loss. May God bless you and help you through.

and saying a prayer.

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for you and your family

thanks for sharing that with us. God bless your family.

After 83 years, and a full life, we said goodbye to the Mom who let me have my first guitar lessons 47 years ago when she and Dad couldn't afford it. Bought me my first small guitar as a 2nd grader, went to my recitals, concerts, dances. The one who listened to my screaching rock band in junior high, my even louder (less screachy) one in high school and my Lightfoot/Taylor/Denver acoustic years. The one who prayed by my bedroom door when I was a troubled teen and who went to work so I could go to college. She was a huge factor in my development as a musician.

I did the memorial service. Sang Chris Rice's Come to Jesus (Fly to Jesus) and gave a message. I prepared but asked God to give me the words and He did so.

If you still have your Mom around, why don't you pick up the phone and call her. Tell her you love her and thank her for all she's done for you--the seen and the unseen. I can't do that anymore.

My prayers are with you _ I couldn't say goodbye last August to my mom, but it's all in God's hands.

Thoughts and prayers are with you Pickalittle. We lost Dad August 2. Be good to yourself, take your time. It's a process. I was Dad's primary caregiver his last 3 months. Final gifts. No unfinished business. Praise God.

Dan H

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom.
They say that the best way to find out how a wife to be will turn out is to look at the mother, and to tell how good a job the mother did is to look at the son.
Judging by the respect you have for your mom and the way you conduct yourself I'd say you had a pretty good one.
Again so sorry, and give yourself permission to grieve.

My mom left me in the care with my Grandmother early on in life... so my grandma was basically my mother..


I held her when she passed on.... I saw someone come and get her....... I can't explain it... but I saw it in her eyes...

we all will pass on my friend... and... as others on this forum have reflected, being there in life was much more important than when she crossed over....

My grandmother, while loving me more than anything, wasn't really paying attention to me when she passed on.... she was.... well... watching my Grandpa (who died when my father was 4 months old) come in and get her.... I have to believe it was him... because in the moments before she let her last breath something in the corner of the room caught her attention and all of a sudden she got the look on her face like one does when they see someone they haven't seen in a VERY long time..... she had the look on her face that one gets when they see their most loved ones.... then she smiled.... and let out her last breath...

I'm sorry for your loss....

-A little late here, but you and your family have my prayers and condolences. I know the pain of your loss all too well. I lost my Mom Feb. 24th of this year, she was only 60. She was lost to the Lord for many years but as my Pastor called it, she had a Devine Appointment. On Friday night the 23rd, my Pastor met me at the hospital so we could pray with Mom. As he was praying Mom kept saying "I do believe." That was about 8:30pm. At 2:10am Saturday morning, the hospital called and told me to get there ASAP. They said she wasn't doing good at all and it looked like she might not make through the rest of the night. As I was heading to her room, a nurse ame out and stopped me saying Mom didn't make it. I missed her by 2 minutes. As hard as that was, I still had the assurance that I knew exactly where Mom's soul was heading. That by far has more meaning than anything else. I know for sure that I'll get to see her again. It may seem like an eternity to me, but to God and Mom it will merely a blink of the eye. She passed away basically 6 hrs after we were praying with her.

L8R,
Matt D.

My thoughts are with you in every way, and my prayers.

This actually made me break down, I lost my mom on Christmas eve a few years ago and will never get over it. He is right, if you still have your mom around, call her right now and tell her what she means to you or you may never get the chance again.:cry: :sad:








After 83 years, and a full life, we said goodbye to the Mom who let me have my first guitar lessons 47 years ago when she and Dad couldn't afford it. Bought me my first small guitar as a 2nd grader, went to my recitals, concerts, dances. The one who listened to my screaching rock band in junior high, my even louder (less screachy) one in high school and my Lightfoot/Taylor/Denver acoustic years. The one who prayed by my bedroom door when I was a troubled teen and who went to work so I could go to college. She was a huge factor in my development as a musician.

I did the memorial service. Sang Chris Rice's Come to Jesus (Fly to Jesus) and gave a message. I prepared but asked God to give me the words and He did so.

If you still have your Mom around, why don't you pick up the phone and call her. Tell her you love her and thank her for all she's done for you--the seen and the unseen. I can't do that anymore.

Thanks for sharing. I WILL hug my mom a few more times on your behalf. It is cool that you are remembering some of the cooler things she did for you -- the sacrifices.

Blessings and peace be with you.

i'm sooooooooooooooooooooo sorry

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I lost my mom when I was 20...she was 64. This was in 1985...time heals the hurt, but I still think about her.

After 83 years, and a full life, we said goodbye to the Mom who let me have my first guitar lessons 47 years ago when she and Dad couldn't afford it. Bought me my first small guitar as a 2nd grader, went to my recitals, concerts, dances. The one who listened to my screaching rock band in junior high, my even louder (less screachy) one in high school and my Lightfoot/Taylor/Denver acoustic years. The one who prayed by my bedroom door when I was a troubled teen and who went to work so I could go to college. She was a huge factor in my development as a musician.

I did the memorial service. Sang Chris Rice's Come to Jesus (Fly to Jesus) and gave a message. I prepared but asked God to give me the words and He did so.

If you still have your Mom around, why don't you pick up the phone and call her. Tell her you love her and thank her for all she's done for you--the seen and the unseen. I can't do that anymore.

I lost my mother when I was twelve. I am sorry for your loss.
May I offer a song I wrote with my moma in mind but it is for all mothers. It is called "A Mother's Hall Of Fame." I wrote this song with Charlie Louvin. I hope it helps.

You can listen to it at http://www.myspace.com/tmhof