February 4th, 2012, 11:08 AM
It's been coming for a few months now. I haven't been entirely happy with the way things had been going and the band seemed to really have stalled. It became clear we all wanted different things. The drummer, and one of the founding members of the band sent out an email that backfired on him, and the bass player quit, and it essentially ended the band. I had been saying for months the bass player would quit after our New Year's gig, and all he needed was said email to do so. He wasn't completely happy either, and his knees had become an issue.
I really think we all parted on good terms, and I still remain close friends with the drummer. I'm lucky enough to have a couple of things in the works. Who knows if they'll work out, but it's good to keep playing music.
We're playing one final gig in March and I'm looking forward to it. Haven't said that in a while. I feel good about the way things ended, and I'm glad we all remain friendly.
February 4th, 2012, 03:20 PM
Any chance of building something out of the ashes? Sometimes the best bands are the ones where the players who liked working together build something new.
February 4th, 2012, 08:24 PM
It's possible. The other guitar player and I are working on a bit of a duo thing. Are schedules are matching up as good as I thought, but we'll see how it works out.
February 6th, 2012, 05:47 PM
I Know the feeling all to well :sad: Good luck and keep us posted :neutral:
February 9th, 2012, 09:42 PM
Well, I thought this band break up was going to go smoothly, but the bass player who quit, is trying to cause problems. Now he wants to play our last show, but we've already committed to a fill in guy (who is awesome, BTW, and much better than the old bass player) filled his spot once before. I talked to my drummer, who handles these sort of things, and as much as we would like for the old bass player to play, we've committed to the other guy. My drummer agreed with me, but I told him whatever he wanted to do would be fine with me. Since we both believe in standing by our commitments, we went with the fill in guy.
We had a Facebook conversation, which sucked because it wasn't done in person or on the phone, and I had to tell him that has soon as he quit, he was out of the decision making process.
Anyway, I'm still looking forward to our last show, to cap off a good experience, but I'm over the drama.
Still moving forward.
February 9th, 2012, 09:50 PM
facebook conversation = oxymoron
this is the time of year when bands go through trauma/drama
we have a guy in our band who is too weak to confront folks face to face, so he always comes to me and the drummer with his whining and hand wringing and wondering if he should quit. We always tell him we like him and his playing and don't want him to quit, but that it may not be for him.
He always quits (after saying some mean crap about one of the guys in the band) and then changes his mind. Eventually, the guy he trashes finds out, is butthurt and thinks about quitting on priniciple.. then, we have the spring gigs start and they are fun and everyone is back in love...
This guy has done this so many times.... he quit once and we made him stay out for 2 years until we got tired of his replacement and he left...
bands come and bands go... focus on the playing... try not to be petty and always, always, always insist on speaking in person.
February 9th, 2012, 09:55 PM
Thanks, GB. I agree with what you said, and I am focusing on my playing. It's been a rejuvenation of sorts.
February 9th, 2012, 10:01 PM
go get'em man! I'm rootin' for you.