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benbo · November 17th, 2007, 09:58 AM

I just went through a big messy breakup as well and I feel for you all the way bro.

We had money problems as well and yes she wanted me to sell my guitars and amps etc... the problem with our money was she spent it faster than I could make it, no way in he-- i was going to sell my stuff for her to just blow the money. We are no together any longer.

My advice is this, if you do go separate ways, please stay friends and the kids will be much better off for it. It's not so much the breaking up that effects the kids it's the fighting about everything, visitation, support etc.... If you must fight do it as far away as possible from the kids. Trust me the kids are much happier this way.

I grew up in a broken home and my mom and dad both did the whole guilt trip thing, you know, your dad is this, well your mom did this and that yada yada, it's a wonder I'm not more messed up than I already am because of it.

I do harbor hate towards my dad for leaving like he did, but he wasn't even seen for over a year when he left and then only about 1 time a year afterwards. Please for your kids sake, always be there for them and don't fight with the ex around them and try to never talk bad about her when she is not there and they are, and have a serious sit down with her and try to explain the same things to here and agree.

Didn't mean to go on and on but I been there and done that and just felt like telling a little about my experience

PS.. I will say a prayer for you both as well.

November 17th, 2007, 09:58 AM	#145 (permalink)
benbo Tele-Holic Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Hampton, Va Age: 45 Posts: 981	Man I feel for ya I just went through a big messy breakup as well and I feel for you all the way bro. We had money problems as well and yes she wanted me to sell my guitars and amps etc... the problem with our money was she spent it faster than I could make it, no way in he-- i was going to sell my stuff for her to just blow the money. We are no together any longer. My advice is this, if you do go separate ways, please stay friends and the kids will be much better off for it. It's not so much the breaking up that effects the kids it's the fighting about everything, visitation, support etc.... If you must fight do it as far away as possible from the kids. Trust me the kids are much happier this way. I grew up in a broken home and my mom and dad both did the whole guilt trip thing, you know, your dad is this, well your mom did this and that yada yada, it's a wonder I'm not more messed up than I already am because of it. I do harbor hate towards my dad for leaving like he did, but he wasn't even seen for over a year when he left and then only about 1 time a year afterwards. Please for your kids sake, always be there for them and don't fight with the ex around them and try to never talk bad about her when she is not there and they are, and have a serious sit down with her and try to explain the same things to here and agree. Didn't mean to go on and on but I been there and done that and just felt like telling a little about my experience PS.. I will say a prayer for you both as well. __________________ Benny Trevillian. So Many Guitars-So little Money DOH!!!!!