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I got divorced a few years back (after 14 years of marriage), and it was a very gut-wrenching experience. Suffice it to say that there’s plenty of blame on both sides of the fence, the same as it is in any divorce… It does take two to tango… Sometimes, when there really is no way for the relationship to work out, it’s better to split, and try to make it as amicable as you can. It’s not an easy thing, but it’s better than staying together where both parties are miserable and end up taking it out on each other….
Anyway, I got divorced, although not without some really rough emotional hell-rides, and life went on… It was hard picking up the pieces, and a lot of the time you’ll feel like you are drowning in mud. Trust me, though, you will eventually feel like returning to the land of the living. For me, it took about a year before I was ready to face society again. Also, you’ll find out PDQ who your friends are. Most of the people I thought were my friends deserted me pronto after I’d filed for divorce. I guess the never really were my friends after all, and I’ve left them behind with the rest of the wreck of my previous life… I have a few who stuck with me through it all, and those people I consider true friends…
I’m with my forever wife now, and I’ve never looked back. I’ve been blessed with a real gem—she plays piano (she has a beautiful white grand piano at our house in VA) and upright bass and sings, and her dad plays bluegrass/gospel guitar and literally has a whole room full of acoustic guitars he’s collected over the years. She’s loving and sweet, nurturing, funny, intelligent, drop-dead gorgeous and sexy, and my guitar playing is totally cool with her, she understands it because she's that way herself, just with a different instrument. If I buy a new guitar, she gets excited about it because it makes me happy. The day I sold some old stuff on ebay, collected my money, took her to GC, and bought her an electric piano to have in the house in IN made me happy, because it made her happy. She loves Willie Nelson and John Lennon music, gospel, some country, rock, pop, etc. Pretty much if it’s music, she’ll listen to it, but she did comment that the Hawkwind I was listening to (a 3-disc set of concerts from 1971-1973) while we were painting (I was painting the dining room, she was painting the bathroom) was not particularly to her taste—the easy fix was to just turn the volume down enough so I could hear it but she couldn’t. Some of the stuff she listens to doesn’t appeal to me overmuch, either, but that’s nothing in the grand scheme of things….
Can you tell I’m as happy as a pig in mud? Eventually winding up in a relationship after this split may or may not be for you, but if it is, you'll certainly be wiser for the experience you have under your belt. I hope things all work out for the best for you!
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