[robt57]

What I did is not important, but finding out the person was arrested doing something which offends me egregiously [understatement] is fooking me up in my mind about it.

I know 'until proven guilty' etc etc. but caught red handed by the cops applies. And lacking denial on his part with a lame explanation for the act, it happened.

It is/was a definite precursor to pedophilia IMO. My wife was molested as pre teen, and I can not let her find out about this if i can help it. And I keep no secrets from her. But she agreed to my doing the gesture, as it effected us both financially.

I can not control what someone else does, but I want to undo the gesture, and is this bad feeling this way I am asking myself.

I am not asking you all to help me by saying I should not feel bad about this feeling or anything like that. Just perhaps some perspective. I really liked this individual, and unlikely they would have been in my life any longer. But I probably would have prior to this.

Sorry for the cloak and dagger, I will say what the deed was. I gave him one of my best pine casters builds after he had to do a sell off or loose his house. 50 year old pine, hand made stainless bridge plate, bone nut and string tee, yadi yada.

So the builders among us can relate to the personal feeling of one of our own creations being where it is, or am I making myself nuts for a reason I have nothing to do , or could do anything about?

Argh!!!