[Tom P.]

At least the basement part. Here's an interesting article from the NY Times, written from the
perspective of a semi-baffled spouse


Sleeping With the Guitar Player
By JEAN HANFF KORELITZ

IN the Ages of Man, there are the classics - infancy, childhood,
adulthood. We have the Midlife Crisis, of course, so dear to therapists
and second wives everywhere. There is adolescence, which in some men
seems to last, oh, well, when does it end? But in the last few years
I've experienced, via my husband, another masculine stage, one I'd been
blissfully unaware of. This is the time of a man's life that I must now
and forever think of as the Guitar-in-the-Basement phase.

Six years ago, when my husband, Paul Muldoon, a poet who teaches at
Princeton, brought home an electric guitar, carried it down to the
basement of our house in New Jersey and plugged it in, I was laughing
too hard to absorb the enormity of what was happening. I knew he loved
music. Growing up in Ireland during the 1960's, he was present at the
birth of British rock, and he knew far more about American blues and
its influence on both sides of the Atlantic than I had ever cared to
learn. He leaped into action when the U2 tickets went on sale and had
dragged me, over the years, to many, many concerts I despised. (I once
fell asleep listening to Bob Dylan at the Beacon Theater.)

Still, I failed to realize that the very loud sounds coming from
beneath the living room floor portended great changes for our family. I
was pregnant with our second child at the time, and to be honest, I
wasn't focusing very well. When Paul played his guitar in the basement,
the whole building vibrated, and I would sit there, one story up,
swaying with nausea. When I couldn't stand it any longer, I went to the
top of the basement stairs and flicked the light to get his attention.
"Please. Stop." He stopped. But not for long.

This was not, I would soon discover, a mere matter of purchasing a
single musical instrument. We were on an acquisition conveyor belt of
more guitars and related equipment, the charms of each soon negated by
the undulations of the next. After that first guitar, a Cort, and its
sidekick amplifier, Paul ordered up a Fender Stratocaster, a Gibson Les
Paul, a Marshall amp, a reissue of a 1952 Telecaster ("like the guitar
Keith plays"), an Ibanez acoustic/electric and a Fender Acoustasonic
amp.

It was a new and unwelcome side of a man I thought I'd known pretty
well, a man who never shopped, who wore a watch with a cracked plastic
band, and who drove an old unlovely car, knocked askew by a deer a
decade ago. Now he was making special trips to Sam Ash in New York City
(I imagined the salesmen nudging one another, "Here comes another
Guitar-in-the-Basement dude, dude."). It was getting crowded down there
under the floorboards.

Gradually, I began to understand that it wasn't just him. There were
hoards of men out there, roughly his age, frolicking in guitar
wonderlands and shoring up amp arsenals in their own basements. In the
weeks after Sept. 11, when I began each sad day with the Portraits of
Grief in The New York Times, I read again and again of men commuting
home from their working lives, descending their basement stairs, and
rocking their Jersey or Westchester or Long Island houses to the
rafters.

Once, at a friend's dinner party, Paul was seated next to a terribly
dull financial manager I'd been shackled with during cocktails. To my
surprise, they quickly began an avid conversation, which lasted all
through the meal. I kept my eye on them, at a loss to imagine what they
might possibly have found to talk about, let alone with such animation.
"He has a Stratocaster in his basement," Paul said happily as we drove
home. "He just got a wah-wah pedal."

Inevitably, Paul started to play with some of these men. There was a
lawyer who possessed an entire recording studio in his apartment, then
a professor of Renaissance poetry with a vast collection of guitars.
Initially, heading out after dinner with the guitar packed into the
back seat was a grand occasion, a thrilling adventure for him, if not
for me, but soon it became a more routine outing. "You don't mind if I
rehearse tonight, do you?" he'd ask. Rehearse? I'd think, baffled. He
was still learning basic chords on the instrument. Rehearse?

It took a long time for me to figure out what I was dealing with. But
I'm a woman, which means that, in my heart of hearts, I have long
understood that certain things are never going to happen in my life. I
won't, by way of example, be modeling swimsuits for Sports Illustrated,
representing my country as an Olympic gymnast or dancing Coppélia for
the New York City Ballet.

I have dealt with these disappointments and, in the idiom of our age,
moved on. But my husband - my wonderful, endearing husband, who is
extremely successful at writing and teaching poetry - believed, at the
age of 53, that it was utterly possible for him to become a rock
guitarist. On a stage. In front of an audience.

Our 12-year-old daughter dubbed the new band Freaks With Guitars, but
the actual name encompassed a more subtle humor. They were called
Rackett, and by now the three older men had been joined by three cute
young guys, just out of college. They started writing songs: the
Renaissance poetry professor on music, my husband on lyrics.

A COUPLE of those cute young guys could really sing. The Renaissance
poetry professor was a superb guitar player, actually. Within months,
the recordings made in the lawyer's studio were sounding not all that
different from the music my 12 year old was blasting in her room. The
keyboardist, who runs his own breath-mint company, began to talk about
producing the eventual CD's.

I no longer bothered to try to talk some sense into my husband. What
sense, after all? My notion of reality had departed the day I came home
to find Paul playing, over and over, a recorded phone message from one
of the few rock stars we both revered, Warren Zevon. Mr. Zevon had read
some of his poetry. When Paul hit "play" on the answering machine, I
heard the author of "Werewolves of London" and "Excitable Boy"
pronounce my husband "The best damn poet on the planet."

In due course they would meet, become friends, and write two songs
together, including "My Ride's Here," the title track of Mr. Zevon's
penultimate album. Books about the music business began to accumulate
in our bathroom. Paul formed a publishing company to register his
lyrics, and became a member of Ascap. Copies of Spin and Guitar World
began to arrive monthly, along with an inexhaustible supply of Sam Ash
catalogs. Rackett was offered its first gig, in a Greenwich Village
club. The band's catalog of original songs stretched to 30, then 50.
Bruce Springsteen produced a live recording of "My Ride's Here" for
Warren Zevon's posthumous tribute album.

I refuse to conclude from all this that I have been unknowingly married
to a rock star for nigh on 18 years. I simply could not have been that
unobservant, failing to notice the spandex in the closet, the tour bus
in the garage, the groupies at the mailbox. Nor is this a story about
years of hard work, prodigious innate musical talent and patient honing
of "craft" reaching their inevitable, just conclusion.

It occurs to me that much of his success in this odd endeavor derives
from the fact that he just didn't know the whole thing was impossible,
that his dearth of musicality, advanced age and lack of Rock Star lips
meant that it was flatly impossible for him to become the thing he had
decided he wanted to become. Then again, some of that obtuseness might
have derived from being male in the first place.

Unlike women, for whom menopause serves as an unignorable transition, a
line dividing one part of life from another, men have no midlife marker
to brake before, or even to steer around, in the hinterland from their
youth to their age; there is only a great, elastic middle. Is it any
wonder they lose track of where they are, and think they can do
anything? And evidence being what it is, I'm forced to concur. Should
Paul waltz in tomorrow and announce that he has decided to become an
engineer, a painter or a matinee idol, I'm afraid I will be forced to
give him the benefit of the doubt.

ON stage, he looks like a middle-aged Irish poet, bespectacled, dressed
in the same rumpled suit he teaches in. He is not a great musician and
still can play only seven chords (which is four more than you need, he
points out). But to succeed at anything is just so unlikely in the
first place. Why should the fact that he's 53 and a musical neophyte
make watching his band rock out on stage any more bizarre for me? Why
should I be so surprised by the possibility of being surprised?

Then again, one of the great pleasures of being shocked by some amazing
thing a loved one does is being aftershocked by something in ourselves.
I'll admit that I have now done things I never thought I'd do, like
bounce up and down in the dark basement of a rock club with a host of
20-somethings, an activity that might have recalled my lost youth had I
ever done it when I myself was a 20-something. I have seen things I
never thought I'd see, like a group of college students raising a sign
with Paul's name on it in the audience at a Rackett performance.

And I have said something I never thought I'd say, at the stage door of
a New York club, as I attempted to carry his guitar - one of his
guitars! - downstairs to the dressing room. The bouncer, after giving
me a very dubious look, wondering, perhaps, if I hadn't just wandered
in off a New Jersey soccer field (which was precisely where I'd been a
few hours earlier), asked if he could help me.

"That's all right," I told him, hoisting the guitar. "I'm with the
band."


Jean Hanff Korelitz lives near Princeton, N.J., with her husband and
two children. She is the author of three novels, including "The White
Rose" (Miramax Books).