[Revman]

Praisecaster,
Not knowing what you had done in the past regarding the pastor's unique ways, I didn't want you to walk away without trying to reconcile. It is sad, very sad, when pride takes over and the the reputation of the Bride of Christ is tarnished in the community. I was also concerned about you as a member of the Levite community in regards to your motivation to serve the Lord. As a member of the Praise Band, we are held to a higher standard. Please know that I was attempting to encourage you to do the Biblical (right) thing and not leave without attempting to reconcile. From your response, it sounds like you have attempted to reconcile with the pastor. Let me say, "Amen" to your efforts. As church musicians go, I find that some are grounded in the Bible and some are not. The ungrounded, operate from an emotional base rather than a Biblical balanced base. Simply, they are ruled by their feelings rather than God's Word. The result, very few of the ungrounded return to musical service in the church.
As a Worship Leader and a pastor, I wanted to exhort you to do the Biblical thing that you may continue to be used for His Glory! To God's glory, it sure sounds like you've done nearly all you can do to reconcile.
One other item. Conflict happens in relationships but how the church is organized can also be part of the formula that creates conflict. From some of your illustrations that you've shared, this Sr. Pastor has "way too much" authority without accountability. I don't know your church's structure, but in my observation, your present church structure is adding to the conflict. Who is your Sr. Pastor accountable to? A personnel team?

Revman