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Praisecaster, I'm so sorry to hear of the tragic situation at your church.
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Thanks bro!
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1. Ask for clarification on why the Worship pastor left. 2. Inform him of your perspective related to the matters you posted here. Allow him a chance to respond (For example, share with him your thoughts on the matter related to the cutting out the monitors. He needs to hear it from you).
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Oh, he has heard my perspective on both what has recently transpired, and also about his cutting the monitors out. He disagrees with my perspective on it (P&W Leader leaving), by not addressing it fully, and thinks he knows better about what musicians really need to perform (cutting the monitors out), and that were making more of it than it really is.
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As the scriptures say, if he listens to you, (seeks to understand) then you have won your brother. If he does not listen, give it another try a few weeks later.
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Well, its not the first time that he has been confronted with this, and I am just not going to invest prolonging it much longer, so unless he see's it quickly, and begins a quick tur around, I wont be here a few weeks later to try again.
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Reconciliation is the goal.
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That is the goal, but as you said, the ball is in his court.
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For 9 years you've invested yourself in that specific faith community. Going away without any attempts to reconcile is just flat out not the Biblical way. The world operates that way but we as believers are called to a higher standard. If your attempts fail, then shake the dust of your feet and find another faith community. I've seen many people come through church doors with bitterness and resentment from past hurts. They try to mask it but eventually it comes out. Don't carry that hurt to another church. If he chooses to not reconcile with you then forgive him and move on. If you do not forgive him, you will be most miserable. Yes, pastors can be jerks at times. Worship pastors can be jerks at times but please don't carry that pain with you. What we do for the church is not near as important as is our relationships with those in the church (They were known for their love for one another. Not what they did in the church.) Through your response to this situation, how will your church be known in the community?
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I hear ya! No, I am not simply and without a word, walking away, but, many have gone before me to confront some of these very same issues, and it has fallen on deaf ears. And in the grand scheme of things, I dont foresee this as something that should rise to the level of dragging the whole congregation into some sort of confrontational drama show. I sure dont desire that. It would be best for all, if we left on amicable terms, still able to say we love one another. There is not anything here going on, that I think is doctrinally wrong from the standpoint of the churches mission, so why would I make a big whop-dee-doo about it?
It hurts that I went through this, but I will get over it. Amazing how we are all resilient over things like this.
I'll find a new church home, and maybe if I'm lucky (blessed), I'll get called up to worship ont eh P&W Team there too!