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Originally Posted by Jakedog
I gotta tell you from experience, you ain't treadin' good trail here.
If you can be honest about your addiction, and keep your spending in check to the point that she can spend equal amounts on what she likes, then you could reach a VERY agreeable middle ground. If not, your headed for trouble.
There's a WHOLE lot more I could say on this subject, but everybody's views and opinions on wives and on money are not like mine, so I'll leave it at that.
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Probably a good idea.
If I can use your comment as a bit of a launching pad...
Why is this suddenly an 'addiction'?
How can you make that (fairly strong) assumption based on a couple of lines of text from someone?
An addiction describes a recurring compulsion by an individual to engage in some specific activity, despite harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life.
I spend quite a bit of money on gear- but I wouldn't say it is an addiction and we don't know enough (nor do I want to) about the OP's financial situation to be able to say he has a problem.
As far as the health of his relationship with his wife- it is easy to be judgemental and point fingers and say "That's wrong'- but you have to live this man's life before you can say what you have said.
Most relationship have a few white lies- if this chap wants to trade a few guitars, why stress out his missus, who doesn't really understand the mentality of a guitar player.
Sometimes it is just better to have an easy life than force an argument.
Maybe you have a different relationship style to me- but I like a fair amount of independence in my relationship.
Having to reveal every last detail about myself to my partner isn't something I would want to do- getting married doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip, unable to make a decision without asking permission, does it?
Mine doesn't.
Back on topic- I don't go out of my way to hide things.
If my wife asks about a particular piece of gear (not that she does often) then I would just say 'Yeah, I've had it a while, just pulled it out again".
Nothing too specific, nothing I can get caught out on later.
It does mean that when I purchase something new I tend not to have that "Gee look at this, doesn't it kick as$" conversation, which is 1/2 the fun of buying something- but that is what you have buddies for, isn't it?