[toadman]

we had a boy almost 3 years ago(OMG 3years already)when my wife was 39 and i was 42 and we decided to squeeze another one in before the door closes! we're expecting a girl in may!
think of it this way.... if having a family was such a godawful experience then why are so many folks doing it??
and if you feel like you're not quite ready just remember this....you will be 100x the parent that someone like Brittney Spears is(was).
also be glad that you have a spouse to share her with. i have a few friends who are single moms and man-0-man, they NEVER sleep!

if you are like me, you are going to wonder why you didn't start sooner!! best of luck to the three of you!